Please please help/advise me! how do i go about this?....

[QueenofVenus]

Im ending a relationship tonight that should have been ended ages ago, the love is gone, the respect is gone, and all we do i pick at each other and row and i have had enough and im pretty sure our 3 small kids must have too BUT how do i do this, do i tell him now as he is about to finish work, so he goes straight to his mums and dads or do i let him home and we talk and risk him going nuts and refusing to leave!??? i feel i should let him home so we can tak about this like adults, but im very certain he will loose it and refuse to leave and that would obviously be bad for all of us, but by just telling him as he finishes work seems cruel, but it will prevent him from going nuts here, and refuseing to leave the house ever again! please help, what should i do? im running out of time, he finishes in just less then an hour!!!

if he's likely to react in that way, I think you should put your plans on hold and seek some legal advice before telling him it's over. Sorry

He may well react like that - it may be a huge shock for him - and letting his anger out may be his way of dealing with that shock, so dont knock him for that. I am thinking how i would/have felt and reacted when h has said something similar to me.

If he is suspecting it then tell him if not then i think you need to be a bit more sensitive as to when you tell him so that he can handle and take in what you are saying.

Expecting him to just go to his mums is not really fair.

He may want to fight for the relationship.

I think you would be best to try and sort it out when your dcs are not around - could someone look after them at the weekend for you. It is not just a case of saying goodbye there is huge amount to sort out especially when there children involved.

I have no idea, in the same situation as you... so i'm not able to give you any good advice.

Hope what ever you decide goes the way you want it to.