Husband always at home!! Micro manages everything

[Thefirstime]

Husband WFH full time and I work part time out the house..

it’s driving me a bit mad as he’s always around..

he has a controlling nature and tends to micro manage everything in the home and with our son.. it’s almost like I need him to back off a bit and get a job where he isn’t here all the time!! He has a presence that is at times negative..

how to I go about talking about this without offending him??

Life would be better for all of us! He’s got so so comfortable WFH every day, he doesn’t have a much desire to change it right now..

I will also be looking for a job where I am out of the house more!!

my son is with me once a week all day (at nursery other days). he’s around then too..

I would just be direct and a bit ‘snappy’ as in ‘that’s enough!!’

‘stop it’

just tell him you are more than capable and he has to respect you or you won’t be here much longer to listen to it

I wouldn’t resell worry about offending him - he doesn’t seem to bothered about offending you

He's obviously not sparing your son or your feelings so I would have a blunt conversation that his behaviour is not okay and if he doesn't change it then he needs to get out of the house rather than WFH.

Doesn’t sound like you like him very much Op. let alone love him

Does he have a study?
is it a busy job or one where he’s cruising?
what’s he like at the weekends?

I would think he will go all out to prevent you from going back to work.

In what other ways is he controlling aka abusive towards you, and in turn your son?. You want your child to grow up thinking that yes, this is how men and women treat each other?. This model of a relationship is not fit for purpose. The only acceptable level
of abuse in a relationship is none.

Reading Why does he do that? by Lundy Bancroft may help you some more.

Bloomin heck op
I remember you… you think your nursery is poisoning your son!!

What is he doing other than being there?

Bloomin heck op
I remember you… you think your nursery is poisoning your son!!
And nursery poisoning poster also had one about being deliberately scratched at nursery too.

If you're not happy in your relationship OP, leave.

But your priority needs to be finding your son another childcare setting

@Rightiothen13 thank you x

What for?

I have simply said what dozens upon dozens of other posters advised in you poisoning thread

I too remember these threads. Op, it is hard to tell whether you have a clear view of what is happening in your life or not.