Police called after domestic incident

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I went out last night for the first time in ages and had a few drinks. My partner was looking after my 16 month old. He hates me going out and makes it really hard for me to go out. He was texting me abuse the whole night. I came back and saw that he was drinking cans of beer so I was really upset as we never drink in the house or with our child. I asked him why he was drinking and he called me fat, ugly, a slag, and then videoed my reaction and sent it to my whole family making me look like the bad person. He then kicked me in my stomach so I got scared and asked him to leave the flat as its my flat. He refused so I rang the police. The police came around and were really nice. They said there's nothing wrong with going out etc. Because I had a drink, they asked me to ask my mum to come around so there was a sober person here. They also said they have to ring social services as protocol but they'll make it clear that I'm not a danger and I'll probably only get a phone call from the social services.

I'm so so nervous and anxious about this. I just don't know what to do I'm so heartbroken and sad today.

I'm so worried about the social services.

Hi, its my flat. I will change the locks but its a temporary place so I'll have to check with the council.

Thank you for your advice x

Tell the local authority what happened, they will assist you. As long as you can show social services that you are protecting your child nothing further will happen, that means you have nothing more to do with him.

What a horrible thing to go through OP, I hope you're feeling okay. Is your mum still around to support you?

Take every bit of help social services can offer, and take this chance to solidly get away from this abusive piece of shit.

Get a ring door bell so if he comes over you have proof of the interaction. Don't ever let him in your home again.

He kicked you in the stomach???? What kind of man does that?

Are you in any pain?

This again - how many women don't contact police because of it or withdraw their statement once they realise the implications.
Removing kids because of father's behaviour is vile and keeps this vicious circle going. Nobody except for the abuser should be removed. The mother needs to be supported in this and he ought to be locked up whether she presses charges or not. For every case like this there'll be tens of women and kids now suffering in silence because of this fear.

It's her flat and she's made him leave. Did you even read her posts before attacking her completely unnecessarily?

Well done, for calling the Police and getting him to leave.
It might be a good idea to contact Women’s Aid, they can support you and give advice about legal orders etc. Make sure you keep evidence, such as abusive texts.
Social Services will support you, they just want to ensure that your child is safe and that you are taking the necessary actions to protect your child.

Good luck and don't crumble, he is toxic and abusive Don't let you and your child live Like that
Good Luck!

A man who kicks his partner in the stomach is absolutely disgusting. Get the locks changed immediately.

Well done for calling the police OP. Lots of good advice on this thread to protect you and your child from this abuser. Keep going and Good luck.

Don't worry about "ending it" its over. Just don't speak to him ever again

Excuse me what? It's her home!

the council might take some time to change your locks. Change them and keep the council’s locks to replace should you move

Agree with this. There will be videos of how to do it on YouTube.

Until you get them changed, have someone stay at yours if you can.

Don't worry about ending the relationship either. He ended it last night when he was violent. You don't need to feed the drama.

Calling Womensaid as suggested above is a really good idea. They can advise you about the Non Mol too.

And please don't just think about getting the Non Mol. He's a violent bully and you need to protect both you and your DC.

In this situation, social services being invold is a good thing. Make sure they know that he was drunk in charge of a child. Also, follow up with police, make sure you record that he assaulted you after being emotionally abusive all night by text and that he was drunk in charge of a which, is an offence in itself. It is clear that he can not be trusted to be left alone with his daughter at night due to drinking, so having the authorities aware of this will help if he wants joint or full custody in the future.