When someone says they are heartbroken over someone else

[DoraDither]

It doesn’t look good does it?

Said guy goes from being really into me and super attentive to in absolute despair that his marriage didn’t work out.

He’s a lovely man really nice but I’m struggling with knowing whether to be a supportive friend and help him (but I have feelings) or just knowing that I’ll always be in the shadows of this other woman.

That’s it really.

How long is it since the marriage ended?

If someone is being honest and saying they are struggling about a painful break up, I think you should respect their honesty. If you're friends, be supportive. I don't think you should try to get involved with someone who clearly isn't ready to embark on a new relationship, that just isn't wise or kind to either yourself or the man. I'd advise to walk away and try to meet someone else, or if you're actually friends with the man, prioritise the friendship and try to get over the feelings.

I’m confused, were you having an affair that’s just been discovered or something?