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blocked by guy friend

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molly12345678 · 10/06/2023 20:41

I have been talking to a guy on line. (Insta)Started off as just friends we had the same interests had a lots in common. was rather odd tbh. we spoke how we where not in the best relationships but we both have children so making our relationships work. I have never cheated before or has he.
we got talking most days and with social media we could see what we where doing etc. He started this as he said its shame your not up for fun, I got feelings for him. he said this cant happened as he trying to make his marriage work. his wife cheated on him. he said im also not a cheat.
I said can we meet as friends he said no as he doesn't think thats a great idea. ]I said ok I think our paths should part. so we did. then a day passed and we said right yets be friends nothing else. then of course it started to get flirty again, he shut it down. then it started up again and I said I dont want to get hurt as it nice feeling, then we had falling out as he said Im to much he blocked me for 3 days. he said he has alot to deal with which I get, but I do too. I asked him if he would meet me as we where talking so much, thinking about meeting at an event, he said its the wrong time in his life. lots of back and fourth,
hot and cold. he did say sorry for the hot and cold, I was honest with him not like I was going to run off with him, I wanted to be his friend as we had so much in common, then he went quiet, so I said I have some think to ask you? he said he didn't want to hear it he sorry. I said I can not believe I trusted you with what I told him and we always said we would be friends, so I was cross as we been talking for 4 months. I removed him from my phone and id blocked him, then I messaged him the next day a nice message. he blocked me and hasn't unblocked me. it has now been a week. I feel sad because we did get along, I want to know why he blocked me as I thought we where friends.
my question is do you think he did like me as a friend or was just a game?
will he un block me ?

I have never done any think like this before in my life and I feel like im going crazy.

OP posts:
guineacup · 10/06/2023 20:48

Effectively you've been having an emotional affair with this guy. It sounds very messy and dysfunctional, and the fact you can't admit to yourself that this can't simply be a friendship. You need to move on.

quietnightmare · 10/06/2023 20:49

What did I just read.

You are both in relationships and to be honest with you both are emotionally cheating and then he's backing out.

He's keeping you on a string and as a back up

And all this blocking eachother is what teenagers do. Neither of you seem mature enough to be in any relationship let alone a secret one

You said yourself you keep flirting so you can't just be friends.

Move on. End your relationship if your not happy, get some time to heal, grow up and learn to love yourself before you move on to the next person who preferably is not married

PimpMyFridge · 10/06/2023 20:51

He blocked you because it was a complete fantasy that you were just friends. Things were flirty, you at least developed other feelings, possibly him too. He tried to pull away from the inappropriate contact (right thing to do if he values his marriage as it was dabbling in an emotional affair), you and/or he talked each other back in.
It was probably taking up a lot of head space.
It was disrespectful to his marriage.
You can't be friends when you have feelings for him.

He's done the right thing. Be glad one of you had sense not to continue in the entanglement.
If your relationship isn't on good shape, sort it out or leave and free yourself for a relationship that doesn't need to be disguised as something it's not.

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