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Husband has poor communication

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mrscheema · 10/06/2023 20:37

My Husband is Pakistani. If he was British I'd think he had ASD but I have been told his communication is quite normal in Pakistanis and he finds it very easy to communicate and make friends with people of his own culture.

His conversation is almost formal. He talks about general things but it lacks any intimacy or depth. So he won't ever ask anything about another person in conversation. Even basic things like asking how their weekend went.
He's a good listener and cares for others. But he has a very formal communication style.
I knew this when I married him but still chose to marry him. He is faithful, kind, loving, romantic, an amazing dad, educated, hardworking. I don't want to leave him and I'm not unhappy.

But due to his poor communication skills I do feel a little lonely in the marriage.

I don't have many friends but I have family who I can spend time with for conversation that I find therapeutic.

Recently I took him to my hometown for the first time and he never once asked me ANYTHING about my childhood. When I showed him my school he took a photo and you could see he cared but he's never asked where I went to school or anything about my past.

It's difficult to explain on a post to be honest.

Can anyone relate to this? Anyone have a husband like this? And how do you remain happy on the marriage?

OP posts:
Vegalam · 10/06/2023 21:31

I don't think it's necessarily poor communication but rather than a cultural difference? You say you can see he cares as he took a picture of the school.

Have you ever spoken to him about what communication you prefer? Would you ever consider counselling to bridge the gap between both of your styles?

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