Newly divorced at age 37. Is there hope?

[Mollymanna]

I am 37 and am newly divorced after a short marriage which turned out to be emotionally abusive. I have no kids and live in London.

I'm feeling scared. Most of my friends have families.

I would love to meet someone who is kind and have a relationship again - one where there's love and respect and fun. I would love to have a child with someone one day if it's possible.

Before my marriage, I was happy and enjoyed life.

Is there hope?

Yes! Of course. I was 34 and single (with my DD in tow!). I'm now 40. I've never had another serious relationship because I've chosen not to! My life is fun, I have fab holidays, I am currently sprawled on my sofa with a fab book and a snoozing cat.
My life is happier now than it's ever been

you were happy before. You will be again.

Absolutely there is. I divorced in my mid 40’s and found a really lovely man. We’ve been together for almost 4 years and I’m about to hit my 50’s happier than Ive ever been.

best advice I can give you is work through your old relationship emotionally first and figure out what you want from life solo. The worst perspective to go looking for a partner from is one of panic and fear. You’ll compromise too much and end up with a wrong un.

Of course there is, you say yourself you were happy before this marriage :) I know it feels like time isn't on your side biologically if you'd like children, but at the the same time take some time to heal and see what happens.

Whether you have a family or do something different with life, there is hope :)

Jesus I hope so! I'm in my 50s I hope it's not over yet!

I would say that don't dive into a relationship prematurely because you fear your biological clock is ticking. Take time for yourself. Get some therapy... enjoy being alone and doing whatever you want. xxx

Yes! I'm a 36 year old divorcee. My husband treated me very badly last few years and we hadn't shared a bed in the last year living together. A few months after moving out I went on an app to see what it was like and immediately met someone lovely. It's early days but I'm extremely happy, feel more like myself and also like my new boyfriend knows me and appreciates me a lot better than ex ever did.
Don't give up! It's also much better to be by yourself than with someone who doesn't make you happy or doesn't want to be with you. You deserve better.

Yes! Of course there is. Google just told me that the average age of women marrying men in the UK is 37.3.

I divorced at a simlar age to you, actually slightly older. I remarried a few years later and am wonderfully happy second time around.

Whilst a difficult marriage is hard to live through, and divorce is really tough, the upside of going through all that, and of dating when you're a bit older, is that you have a better idea of what you're willing to put up with; a better idea for warning signs; a greater aversion being stuck with someone who isn't right for you.

I knew much better who I was second time around, and that meant I chose better.

Yes, there is hope. However, do not make it a priority to have kids unless with absolutely the right person. That takes time to make sure is the one as fast tracking would not allow to know the person properly. Also, enjoy your time single. Honestly, most single women are happier than married women.

Yes, there is hope. I was newly divorced after a short and emotionally abusive relationship when I turned 35. I met DH when I was 36, got married at 38. I'm about to turn 40 and life has never been better.

Kids might not be in our future but we have great plans for ourselves to explore the world if they're not.

Never give up hope OP x

Definitely @Mollymanna! I split from my ex DH at 37. Met my forever DH at 39, married at 41 and coming up to 5 blissful years together ❤️ Please keep the faith!

I met my DP at 36 after being convinced I'd never find anyone. We're only a year in so no family yet but live together and couldn't be happier. I'd say take a block of time to yourself to regroup as you've been through a lot, maybe try some therapy re the emotional abuse, then get looking.

Be picky with OLD, it's one thing to only see men of a certain height, eye colour and profession and another to not waste time on those who live miles away, aren't really your type and have unrelated interests and views.

Yes. I met my husband when I was 39, we married at 40, had my first child at 41, second at 43.