Feeling rejected just need to vent

[Rockchk31]

Been with my partner for about 15 months and all is well apart from one thing….he literally has no sex drive for the past few months and it’s getting to the point I feel utterly rejected…I try initiating and dressing up nicely but nothing seems to work really.
He often messages suggesting some ‘play’ time but when it comes to it there is a reason not too 🙄
Now, we both suffer from mental health issues at times with anxiety and periods of depression which I know can have a huge affect on wanting sex etc but I can’t help but feel shit and unwanted….he says he will speak to a doctor about this but never seems too.
I know most will be thinking he is cheating but I can 100% say he isn’t, he is either at work or at home…doesn’t go out much and I do trust him.
Not sure what I’m wanting to get from this but I just need to have a vent…not sure it makes much difference but we practice BDSM so I crave certain intimacy interactions.
thanks for reading ☺️

So put your foot down with him.

Go to the doctor until then don't see him.

A relationship where you want sex but there is none is a friendship surely?

@frozendaisy would you have the same response if this was a man posting about his wife not wanting to have sex for a few months?

@baileys6904 I think most people would say the same if it was a man posting about his 15 month relationship with a woman.

It should be the honeymoon phase. If you aren't all over each other at the start it's never going to get better.

intimacy should come as a natural thing in a relationship, should not be requested. The pressure would be enormous. If you have spoken with to your partner about this and nothing is happening, then its a 15 month relationship, too soon to be placebo. Just don't put pressure on things as it will only make it worse and I would not feel great having to do something I was not up to for whatever reason. it would be forced.

Yes after 15 months, 15 months, a few of them with no sex, and the partner appearing to not want to sort this out.

This is who he is, take it or leave it. There is no magical solution to changing people into what we want.

Thanks all for your input…things seem to have improved after having a long chat etc so fingers crossed