Ex Husband found out he definitely cheated how did you discover the OW?

[wickedgame25]

I split with EH a year ago after he textbook changed overnight. He played the scriot to a tee. HIs behaviour nearly broke me at the time he properly traumatised me.
I suspected he was involved with a work colleague at the time despite him protesting that it was all in my head etc.
I have now found out the week after I left (parents owned our house) that he took her away and that they are definitely together.
Why do I feel so bloody angry at his treatment of me? Why not be honest? I was made homeless and his aggressive vile behaviour added to the pain? Who else was treated in this way?

You were caught on the back foot. That is very disorientating (to put it mildly). Throw everything else into the mix, like being deceived by the one person who you thought had your back, and you're going to experience extreme emotions. It's widely recognised now as a form of trauma with effects similar to PTSD.

He had you doubting yourself while all the time he was lying. He’s a shit, be glad it’s over.

Is the divorce finalised? What a gaslighting rat of a man, hope your are doing better now op, but in your shoes I’d be fuming.

Not divorced yet. No kids no property. Tbh he doesn't know where I am. I am leaving him to divorce me, the OW will be pushing for marriage and babies. She's religious.
I have had no contact since the day I left. Its just the hurt finding out he was definitely cheating when he could have just been honest in the first place.
He turned into a vile, aggressive, violent brute. I am well rid and my life is so much better but dear God. Why put me through all that?

Oh I'm so sorry you're going through this 😔 it hurts a lot *( I know from bitter experience lol 😆)
Just think how much better you'll feel once he's out your life . GOOD LUCK 👍