AIBU to get my hair done on a saturday

[girlmummy25]

So, I quite literally never go to a hair salon as my sister is a hairdresser so cuts my hair at my house however, I wanted a colour done on my hair that my sister cant do so wanted to go to a hair salon. The appointment takes 4 hours.
My mum doesnt work Mondays so watched my kids aged 4 years and a 8 month old whilst I got it done.

I mentioned to my partner that I was lucky to get a last minute appointment on a Monday while my mum was off work as the next Saturday available was in 2 months time.

My partner (of 10 years and 2 kids) said I shouldnt get my hair done on a saturday as thats his day off work and basically he doesnt want to sit in on his own watching the kids whilst i get my hair done for 4 hours. He basically said that I should ask my mum or sister to watch the kids in the week while I get it done.
Bare in mind ive never done this in the 10 years weve been together and was a one off.

I cant get over this and cant let this comment go. Im so annoyed over it.

Surely im not being unreasonable to ask him to watch his own kids for 4 hours once in a blue moon on his day off!?

Well you aren't getting it done on a Saturday anyway, but it's one thing to say 'weekends are family time' (see all the threads about husbands disappearing for their hobbies for hours every week), but an appointment that's once in a blue moon?
My husband had a 60 hour workweek and I was a sahm, but every Saturday he took the kids off swimming for a couple hours to let me have time to myself, and certainly was fine with my going off to meet a friend or do a bit of shopping while he had the kids.
How does a normal weekend go at yours? Is it him doing his own thing (even if that's sitting watching sport on tv) snd you still dealing with the kids? Ot do you do family things together that he really engages in? I'd be minded to tell him that tomorrow you've arranged to take your mum out to lunch as a thank you so he can still have fun daddy time with his children!

I would make a point of getting things done on Saturdays going forwards (at least for a short while).
Hair
Nails
Go for a swim by yourself (i.e. without the kids hanging out of you)
Go for a massage
Go for a beauty treatment

Yep. Get them done on successive Saturdays.

Perhaps he'll be less of a plonker when he realises that your time is equal to his own and he doesn't get to determine what you do and don't do on any day of the week.

At the moment, he's being a total plonker and not even trying to hide it.

He's a complete dick

He shouldn’t have had kids then! Stupid prick.
Go get your hair done more regularly.

He is a t**t

Can you take up a regular hobby or exercise class that falls on a Saturday?

Being brutally honest, in your shoes I probably wouldn't even go to it, but claim that time for myself under the guise of 'that's when the class/hobby is, I can't change it' and take myself off for a coffee with a good book

Fucking bizarre scenes. Only on Mumsnet would you see this shit.

If he's just fed up because he'll have to look after his own children then he's being a tit. If it's more to do with the fact that he enjoys spending time as a whole family at the weekend then he's got every right to be a bit miffed.
Unless there's a big drip feed coming that he buggers off to golf or football or whatever every Sunday and leaves you alone with the children.

If it's more to do with the fact that he enjoys spending time as a whole family at the weekend then he's got every right to be a bit miffed.

No he doesn’t.
Its pretty normal for people to have stuff planned at the weekend that means they don’t spend the whole weekend together.
The OP could you and have her colour done once every 6 weeks. Just like he could go out and spend half a day on his hobby - once a week.

Its not as if the OP and her family wouldnt have any time at all to spend together!

Tell him you've booked a spa day for friend, mum and sister and he's having their kids too.

WOW ..... Father of the year awards beckons ....

I'm not surprised, mine wouldn't mind them to let me go to Tesco for groceries once a week. Being a mug i put up with it for too long, separated now. Same shit.. his day off he should have it to himself, my day off i have the kids and all the usual responsibilities.. literally these men should not have children 🤢

I should add i work full time and he worked part time, he had a lot more time on his hands.. he never used it to get groceries in tho..

What did he say when you told him to stop being a twat and look after his kids?

Which day does he usually have them on his own?
How many times in four years?

Have you asked him why he doesn't think it's his job to look after his own children?
Why does he think your mum or sister have more responsibility for them than him?

Is it plain laziness and he can't be arsed to look after them (yet no doubt thinks you should have the energy for it every day)?
Is it that he's incapable of looking after them?
Is it just selfishness and he's got things he'd rather do than look after his children?

I'd love to know which of those three he thinks it is.