Is it possible?

[AverageJoe1]

Is it possible to have loved an ex more than someone you married and had children with?

Yes

Yes, doesn’t mean the ex you didn’t marry was the right person though.

Maybe, but it's much more common to love the idealised version of an ex you've constructed in your head.

Yes it is, but as a pp has said you don’t remember it all; just the good bits.

I suppose...

Life with kids means that a relationship is 'flavoured' with experiences of tiredness, routine and mundanity. It's got to have enough good flavours to counter that.

Those flavours aren't there with memories of an ex you never truly settled down with, so it's easier to associate the fiery passionate style feelings with them. Add in the brain's annoying ability to minimise negative memories.

I agree with this. Of course it would depend on the circumstances surrounding the breakup with the ex and how well the person is getting on with their current partner. But saying you might love an ex more than your current spouse and the mother/father of your children isn't comparing like for like.

Why do you ask @AverageJoe1 ? What's your situation?

Most definitely.

Just wondering if it is possible that an ex could have felt more for me that she does her husband. That although she would never admit it, she doesnt love him as much as she loved me.

Does the fact she married him and had his kids mean she loves him more than she ever loved me?

Honestly, what difference does it make? She is married to someone else, whether she loved you more or not is now totally irrelevant unless you are planning to destroy her family to get her back. Are you?

If she really loved you that much she would find a way to be with you, she hasn’t so I would say she loves him more.

What difference would it make? She married him.

Has she given you any indication that she regrets this decision and would rather be with you?

Why didn't you and her get married @AverageJoe1 ?