Grandparents cancelling plans, am I a wuss?

[WildOnce]

My mum has form for arranging stuff with me and my kids then cancelling to do other things - like having her friends over. She gets tired as she has a disability but this is just us going round for a couple of hours in the afternoon for a cup of tea while the kids potter/watch TV and see their grandparents which they LOVE. Having 5 mates over might be about the same amount of energy expenditure for her.

it really hurts my feelings when she does this, they don’t have any other involved grandparents and as I’m a SAHM it makes me feel lonely and unsupported and suddenly I have a whole afternoon to fill.

Am I just being over sensitive and taking it personally? I have a lump in my throat, I feel a bit pathetic.

Maybe next time you arrange a get-together ask if she is sure she can manage it? Then explain that it can be disappointing for the kids to have plans cancelled on the day. I wouldn’t lay it on too thick.

It is rubbish when plans are cancelled last minute and you don’t sound at all pathetic. I think you can improve the situation by encouraging her to think a bit more about whether she has the time / energy for visitors before making plans. (Albeit if she has trouble with energy levels there may still be sometimes she might need to cancel).