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Seeing Ex

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Livelifelaughter · 06/06/2023 10:23

I know a lot of MN say block an ex etc. I split up a few months ago. It was a really deeply connected 12 month relationship; some will think this is nothing but it seemed more emotionally connected and honest than my marriage. We broke up because he couldn't cope dealing with an incredibly stressful divorce - we met when he had been separated a few years. Anyway, we have met a few times and spend most of the day together, talking having lunch, the connection is still there. He is friends with some exs but to be honest they were just a few dates rather than established relationships. When we met recently I explained that because we had split because of circumstances I could see him, but after his divorce comes through I wouldn't be able to see him if he had a relationship with someone else , I would find it too painful so in effect we either reconnected or parted ways. He said he just had not thought about the future. We aren't really seeing each other now as friends it's something in between but no sex .Has anyone been in a similar situation?

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gardenweed · 06/06/2023 11:05

I'm confused. Do you want to be in a relationship with him?

Livelifelaughter · 06/06/2023 11:46

gardenweed · 06/06/2023 11:05

I'm confused. Do you want to be in a relationship with him?

Sorry, a fair question. Yes, I would like to reconnect after his divorce when he has some headspace. I was single for a long time after my own divorce, dated a bit but never really had a relationship with such connection, we met organically. Am in my mid 50s.

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gardenweed · 06/06/2023 11:51

So why are you telling him that you couldn't continue to see him after his divorce if he were to enter into a relationship with someone else ? Why don't you just tell him you would like to be in a relationship with him?

Livelifelaughter · 06/06/2023 12:03

gardenweed · 06/06/2023 11:51

So why are you telling him that you couldn't continue to see him after his divorce if he were to enter into a relationship with someone else ? Why don't you just tell him you would like to be in a relationship with him?

He's not in the right headspace, he is in the midst of his divorce and so stressed. But I suppose I did say that after his divorce I would want to see if we could reconcile..

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