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Would you continue to chat to this man ...

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thelastday · 06/06/2023 09:31

Met a man online a few weeks ago. We chat on line and on the phone now and again. It's increased to daily general texting and a phone call every three days or so. The getting to know you stage maybe. We haven't been able to meet up but plan to do so next week.
He is abroad on holidays.
He has still maintained contact. However he , over the last few weeks would generally text at night and in the morning , as he has the time and I am on holidays also.
He was going out last night.
Haven't heard anything g from him since before he went out which hasn't been his habit . He leaves his phone in the room. I can only assume he hooked up with someone. That's my gut feeling.
Would I be unreasonable to continue to chat if he did or is he on holidays and there is no commitment so continue to chat loosely ?
What would you do?
We are no more than online friends right now but the interest has been there in both sides .

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Artycrafts · 07/06/2023 21:11

Winterwondering22 · 07/06/2023 21:04

Maybe he’s married and busy with the family and can’t be so available. Probably cheating

Those were my thoughts

Winterwondering22 · 15/06/2023 22:59

Artycrafts · 07/06/2023 21:11

Those were my thoughts

Typical pattern.

Crabbyk · 15/06/2023 23:10

Id suggest you meet as soon as he’s back to know if it’s going anywhere! Never text / chat without meeting face to face for a prolonged period because it will get weird and you could be wasting your time on a weirdo!

Flashingtealights · 16/06/2023 05:06

He messages you in the morning and in the evening, standard behaviour of a married man. That aside he shouldn't keep asking if you d met anyone and you shouldn't be assuming he's met someone because he hasn't texted you yet. It's just sounds pretty unhealthy and you've not even met yet.

Winterwondering22 · 24/06/2023 22:52

Flashingtealights · 16/06/2023 05:06

He messages you in the morning and in the evening, standard behaviour of a married man. That aside he shouldn't keep asking if you d met anyone and you shouldn't be assuming he's met someone because he hasn't texted you yet. It's just sounds pretty unhealthy and you've not even met yet.

This is all so textbook. He’s texting morning and evening. It’s not a conventional available single guy. He’s married. He’s trying to have it all. Please move on. Don’t fall for this act.

Unexpectedlysinglemum · 24/06/2023 23:13

I don't think it's ok to ask at this stage what he's been up to, it's not your business. Don't over think it and don't treat him like a bf just because you're texting as you would a bf. Pull back a bit yourself till you've actually met him

CoQ10 · 24/06/2023 23:27

How.old.are you? You sound incredibly naive and very delusional.

You've never even met this person?

Suggest you meet asap to see if he or she is real and worth all this invested energy.

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