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mumnet55 · 05/06/2023 21:28

Recently broke up with a guy and trying to process everything. He disclosed during the 6
months we had together that he worked the odd time at a family business but I always had doubts about this as he drives around at night and one particular night when he was sending me a Whats app voice note I could hear another phone vibrating in his car ?? Also he only uses cash and Dosent have a bank account. I also found out he Dosent have a job so perhaps 🤔 I’ve dodged a bullet here just trying to move on In my own head but you can’t help who you have feelings for , is this dodgy ??

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Gingergirl70 · 05/06/2023 21:32

What are you asking? Is he a drug dealer? How long did you have these suspicions for? Is that why you ended the relationship?

mumnet55 · 05/06/2023 21:40

@Gingergirl70 yeh I thought that to my self. He just didn’t seem to have a whole lot of time to give me with being a single father to a young child who he co parents and I just feel I’ve been naive about the whole thing but my gut feeling tells me something is off. I know I’m better off and there’s no contact now I’m just disappointed 😔 as I really liked him

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mumnet55 · 05/06/2023 21:43

@Gingergirl70 he ended things when all I said was you seem busy and stressed with work and your child so if you want to leave things for now we can stay friends and he said if he didn’t have work and a child he would be with me mmmmm 🤔😔 I don’t want a part time guy either it’s too challenging

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Gingergirl70 · 05/06/2023 21:47

Well, you're definitely best out of it then.
I can understand you being upset but you'll get over it and hopefully one day meet someone (if that's what you want) who will want to be with you for the right reasons and who won't make you suspect their motivations or actions.

mumnet55 · 05/06/2023 21:49

@Gingergirl70 thank you I hope so
think I’m just having delayed reactions about him and just having a moment

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mumnet55 · 07/06/2023 01:23

@Gingergirl70 uh just taken by surprise seeing him on same dating website as me
that stings 😔 I don’t know why I joined as I despise online dating but now this ! I didn’t need to see that , wish him all the best let the new girl see it for herself , it just crushes your self esteem for a bit when he said he needs to focus on his son and it’s all wrong timing with us so sorry to vent but I needed to

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