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divorced dads hell in norfolk.humbug to xmas

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romantick · 10/12/2004 21:40

why is it when you divorce your xwife for being mad you then find that she still is mad.judges ignore what the medics say and keep the children with the mother despite being at risk.and as a father you find your x wife does not want the kids to see you at christmas at all.going against what the children want.so this is my 2 nd christmas of hell .when there is a loving father who would do anything.why do i have to be punished.what i can not understand is why does no lady ever want romance for eternity any more.all i wanted in life is to fall in love with the perfect partner have children and romance her forever.but things are not always what they turn out to be,so next time i just want to find that person who really loves roses and surprise magical things that make a feeling of love and affection forever.
sorry gone off the subject.
humbug

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lockets · 10/12/2004 21:46

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winterwarmmummer · 10/12/2004 21:47

I wish I could say something constructive. Is xw really certifiable? If so then surely you have something to go on?

No child should be without their dad if possible.

I hope things improve for you.

bonniej · 10/12/2004 21:48

it must be horrible not being able to see your children over christmas. Keep in mind that one day when they're old enough they can decide themselves when they want to spend time with you.

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romantick · 10/12/2004 21:48

thanks lockets bit carried away on message.but xmas and new year heel.cant get into court in time .

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Gobbledigoose · 10/12/2004 21:48

romantick - we are out here, women who like to be romanced and looked after! So sorry, you won't see your babies at Christmas - that's awful and my heart goes out to you. Surely you have the right to see them?

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romantick · 10/12/2004 21:51

when older will be totally different but it is the early years the most damaging.even harder when the x tries to brainwash by saying that evrybody is evil unless she says so.
got i need abottle of wine or 10

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bonniej · 10/12/2004 21:55

i'm sorry it must be terrible. it does seem really wrong that you can't see them. don't really know what to suggest but hopefully someone will come along with some good advice for you.

AimsmumTheRedNoseReindeer · 10/12/2004 22:13

Romantick - sorry to hear your x wife it not letting you see your kids over xmas, that must be really hard for you!

I am the opposite to you in that I am trying to get my x partner to come round for a bit on christmas morning to see our DD, as I think it would be nice for her, but he is "thinkingabout it"
Hope things work out for you!
And there are definatly women out there who would love to be romanced and given flowers etc.

Willowmum · 10/12/2004 22:19

So sad for the kids when they're prevented from seeing one parent. Xmas is just one day - you're a Dad for a lifetime.

pixiefish · 10/12/2004 22:55

for you

TwasTheNightBeforeXmasOwl · 11/12/2004 01:56

things like this make me so sad. i know men who arent allowed to see their children and it breaks their hearts... when my dd's daddy wont even meet her once. i can never get my head around why a woman would deny access/be awkward unless there was a good reason...but i know a lot do. sorry to hear this romantick

IwigitcouldbeXmaseveryday · 11/12/2004 12:54

Without knowing anything of your case, I would like to ask, do you have a contact order in place?

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romantick · 12/12/2004 21:57

just like to say thanks for the replies to my depressing messsage.
thank god i am retired and hopefully going to move to south of france next year.
at least my life will be better without the x and also good to know she can not get her hands on money for plastic surgery anymore.
so just roll on courts giving justice out and me in finding that perfect princess

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Caligulights · 12/12/2004 22:40

Just one word of warning romantick - lots of women want romance, but no woman's perfect (no man either, for that matter). If it's perfection you're looking for, you're setting yourself up for inevitable disappointment.

Hope you have a better 2005 than 2004 has been for you.

pixiefish · 12/12/2004 22:43

what will you do about seeing dd if you move to france? am intrigued about the plastic surgery or have i missed a joke somewhere?

FrostyTheSurfMum · 12/12/2004 22:44

Romantick - sorry to hear you won't ben seeing your children at Xmas. I can't imagine how that must feel - but my dh can. He didn't see his daughter on her birthday for 6 years and missed 2 or 3 Christmasses. His x's then partner even told him he didn't want dh phoning on Christmas Day as it would upset the nice family day they were planning. A Court Order sorted things out and we see her now from Boxing Day for a week.

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