Tents - how to come to an agreement

[HopeG]

My husband has been out every night and lots of the weekend volunteering for a big project.

Meanwhile I had been researching tents for 5 nights away next month.

I found a Vango air beam six man tent, bigger than many 7 or 8 man tents (except some over £1000) that was only £575 in a sale which ends tonight. There is only our 5-year-old son, my husband and myself.

In typical fashion my husband now wants something different, he doesn’t want the bedrooms next to each other. But the nearest tent that meets this is £900 and is much smaller than the tent I found. He wants to have 3 rooms that are separate in case we take a friend with us camping!

My husband only wants to go camping once a year. When I said I might take our son for a weekend he said it wasn’t fair because he (husband) wouldn’t want to come.

To say I’m frustrated is an understatement. What would you do?

Get a blackout tent and be prepared for your son to not fall asleep until about 9pm/10pm as I’ve never seen a normal bedtime when camping. It’s ridiculous to think about getting a tent for mythical people you may never go camping with. We like tents that have an entrance way so you can take off muddy/wet clothes without walking everything into the living area. They’re also handy to store things so you can keep the living area clear.

Have you looked on Facebook Marketplace/eBay for secondhand ones? You could get a 5 man tent for all 3 of you and a smaller one for just the two of you. If he thinks it’s not fair if the two of you go camping then he can easily go with you!

Oh, and Airbeams aren’t that amazing. You don’t get leaking poles with a traditional tent!

All sounds very intents op. .. Boom boom
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Surely a 2 bedroom 4 /5 man tent is plenty? If you plan on going as the only adult you need to be able to put it up yourself! We have a 10 man which takes at least 2 of us or a tall dc!

Husband just started yelling at me for buying a £575 tent on our credit card (for the consumer protection) as it’s in the sale (ends tonight) and hubby giving no real reason for the dislike of the tent and wanting £900 plus tents. I explained I had checked returns policy and we can return to Asda if he finds a tent that’s better.

It follows a post I did earlier today 👇

https://www.mumsnet.com/talk/relationships/4820787-tents-how-to-come-to-an-agreement?reply=126658634

Is he right to be angry? Should I put up with it?

You've linked this thread?
He sounds like a pain in the arse btw

I didn’t know Asda sold vango tents. Anyway bedrooms with a toddler much better all one end. Also three random separate bedrooms make tents a funny shape and that leave dead space on your pitch that could be useable unless you where talking those stupidly high high prices with a outside bedroom and then one in the livingroom etc.

I'd want bedroom pods next to each other with a five year old. You'll also benefit from the extra space more than a random bedroom pod.

The ones at opposite ends are often darker as it blocks where you'd want windows.

With a airbeam check the weight and pack size. They can be huge

I would say buy yours, its cheaper, bigger and you will be using it more so a no brainer. However, if it weighs 30kgs and might be restricted on sites, i'd go back to the drawing board!

Sounds like things a more than a little tents, two tents perhaps ?

thanks , I’ll get my coat.

I'd book one family room for two nights in an expensive hotel. With 5 yr old.

If DH complains, say you've given up camping for his sake.

😂😂😂

@HopeG sounds like didn’t like the little woman defying him. I would tell him that I was going to ignore his yelling until he explained exactly why his opinions on the tent to buy should matter more than yours particularly as he only wants to go once a year anyway.