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I was invited to my partner's daughter's University event. His 2 other adult children also came. I bought coffees and snacks and bought drinks in the pub. I bought his daughter a pretty vintage top she had seen as a surprise. Out of nowhere my partner accused me of being tight, that I should have bought some of their meals as means of showing gratitude for having been given a 2 night break. I paid for my own meals or transferred money to my partner. He called this pathetic. I was going to contribute fuel and campsite costs. He said that I am tight fisted. Just for the record, I have always given generously to him and his children and what hurt is that he said that he is a generous person. This is not the case. He doesn't buy gifts and has never paid for me and my children, who weren't even invited to the event. What are your thoughts?

He is pathetic, leave him. He sounds ungrateful and entitled. You deserve better.

What an absolute tightwad he is.

I'd bin him off straight away. Ugh, God I couldn't cope if a bloke I was seeing was such a miser

He's a knob. Throw him back in the sea.

Oh gosh. Shades of my very tight XH here, who would accuse me of it (absolutely not the case) whilst being tighter than a budgie's bum himself. He didn't get any better.

I suspect that this is not the only issue with your 'D'P.

Was this out of the blue, or have there been previous issues with this?

He is projecting his own meanness onto you, OP. Dump him.

There have been other issues such as mot wanting to do couply things and complex family dynamics we ate not living together, he is widowed. This is the first time he has accused me of brong mean in 8 years

He sounds horrible. Dump his arse. He is treating you badly and projecting his own meanesss into you.

Thank you for your input. He doesn't want to go on holiday alone with me. His parents always went on holiday with other people or alone. I had told him that isn't what I want and asked him why he forsnt wanr to. He made up some untruths. This paying / money thing is a response to that. He's at fault but looks for things to throw at me and deflectx

Dishonest and obfuscating as well as projecting his own mean behaviour. You've gone to his daughter's event so it's not unreasonable he would pay for the camping. He sounds a strange one with all his private rules and regulations. You'll never get it right, sounds like his main pleasure is picking fault and setting weird directives such as 'we can never go away together'. Dans la poubelle 🗑

He’s clearly a knob. Why are you with him?