Ready to leave, no where to go

[HowDoIStay]

Dh is abusive, mainly emotionally, but there has been some physical abuse. I want to leave. I have been looking for new rentals but nothing is affordable, in the right location for work and school or simply too many people applying and I'm not getting anywhere.
I have contacted women's aid plus several local domestic abuse advisors, I'm on the council housing list but I'm just not able to find somewhere.
Current house is rented in both names but he will never agree to leaving so I need to. 2 teen dc who I believe will what to come with me.
My question to others is how do I get through this period? He still initiates sex and physical contact, the thought of it repulses me but not having sex is one of the triggers for him. Trying to be normal is exhausting having to put on an act all the time that things are ok. I have self harmed on occasion because it gets too much and I fear what will happen if I don't find a place soon.
Every agency just tells me they can't help

I’m so sorry you are in this awful limbo. is there any way you can get emotional support while this is going on - any free therapy in your area for example? As regards where you can go, are there any supportive family members available? Hugs. 💐

Have you sought legal advice here re separating and divorce?. I would do this if you have not done so already. You may be able to obtain a non molestation and or an occupation order against him.

I haven't got legal advice as I simply don't trust him to obey the non molestation if I got one. I was told by one of the advisors about it and that police would be involved if he didn't obey but as we all know it can be too late by the time they attend an incident

Are the council aware you are wanting to leave due to domestic abuse or do they think you are just wanting to leave him.
If you need to leave home because of domestic abuse and are at risk of homelessness as a result you are a priority need. Find the local homeless team number for the council if you have not and speak to them. If they have been rubbish find a homeless charity locally, our local one is brilliant and will have contacts to help you.

My local council only accept domestic violence with a police report, domestic abuse doesn't count to make you a priority they told me. Tried to explain I want to leave before it escalates but no joy

Sounds like you need to involve the police. A friend of mine gave a statement about her XH’s behaviour when she was preparing to leave. This didn’t involve her XH - it was so it was on record if she did need to involve the police. Perhaps speak to your local police and see if you can do the same.

Thank you I didn't realise you could do this

That is awful of the council. So many people leave without reporting for their own safety.
I hope you get sorted and Derys idea is an alternative for you.
Stay safe