Talk.
Phones are bad.
Consoles are too.
suggest the date nights
don’t expect it to be easy to rekindle things
highlight that things aren’t working- and if things don’t change, the marriage will fail.
it’s not about blame. It’s just about being realistic about the path you are on.
life is hard. Western society seems to have adopted the strange philosophy that stress is normal and sometimes good for you. It’s not. It’s good for productivity. Not for health, relationships, life. Employers, no matter their rhetoric consider employees disposable, replaceable. I know there are good employers, one change of management can change that quickly. I’ve been at the top, the discussions we’ve had, never overtly stated, anyone can be replaced, highly skilled expensive roles, get broken down into less skilled compartmented, easier to replace, cheaper.
so, focus on what you do together. Walks, time with the little one, get out of the house as a family, discard the devices, ensure there are more boundaries between work and life. As an example, Yes it’s good to unload on each other about work stresses, but spending 45 going on about your day and the other person listening is likely to make them irritable.
if the jobs are too stressfull, find one that isn’t or is more accomodating to family life. Quiet quit if necessary.
Covid taught the world that work wasn’t everything. Make sure you don’t forget that. Big houses mean nothing if you are in it alone and no family around you.
Don’t be the wife that gives up easily. Relationships can be tough going at times. Make it through the tough bits together, generally unless someone’s been deceitful or violent, the challenge makes it stronger long term.
and don’t expect it to be easy. None of us are perfect, but we might be perfect for each other.