He bumped into his ex

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I went out to a buffet restaurant with my boyfriend and friends. My boyfriend was at the buffet, I went to get some more food and a woman walked past him really quickly. He looked startled and said something to her and she quickly went. I went over to him and he told me it was his ex from last year who he dated for a few months before we got together.

A few minutes later he went to get drink from the bar and asked if I could help him then changed his mind and said he could do it himself. I think he wanted to see if she would come to him at the bar.

For the rest of the meal he went very quiet. I think he still has feelings for her because she was the one who broke things off. He also bumped into her at the hospital last week.

It made me feel sad because I have been so loyal to him and we have a good relationship but it was clear from his reaction she still has a part if his heart. I do wonder if she ever said she wanted him again if he would go there.

Is it because its the first time he's seen her since the breakup? I don't think there is anything unusual about getting flustered, awkward or upset after bumping into an ex unexpectedly, I know I have and it really didn't mean anything.

He probley has some unresolved questions. Breakups are tough. It doesn't mean he still is interested in a relationship. Some people require closure. I mean, think if u bumped into your ex, would that bring up feelings? The main thing is communication. Ask him. He is the only one who knows what is going on in his head. You may not like the answer, but u will know. You can not have a relationship without openness, honesty, and trust. (My DH wasn't the chatty about feeling type to begin with.)
Wish you luck. OP, just talk to him.

Personally I'd not mention it. He either has feelings or he doesn't, and there's no guarantee he'd tell you if he did, or that you'll be reassured, as people can often be less than honest about these things.
Asking him about her comes across as a little insecure, and I'm not sure that's helpful at this stage in your relationship. It may also result in him concealing future encounters with her if he thinks you have a problem, and his openess is important.
I'd put it out of my mind and carry on as normal. Only if the meetings escalate or his behaviour significantly changes would I raise it.

Fair enough point. I prefer to think of it as a discussion rather than an insecure question. Like I noticed you were uncomfortable the other night. do you want to talk about it? He may choose not to, but OP has opened up the thought that it's ok to talk about the awkward stuff, and he then may talk to her in his own time. At least she has addressed her concern rather than leaving things unsaid, which will fester.
I feel most people know deep down when someone is being less than honest, in which case there is a red flag right there. I always think that each relationship is unique, and the OP will hopefully find a way to broach the topic without appearing insecure.

I know he bumped into her at some shops a few months ago as she told him she was 6 months sober. I respect him for telling me when he has seen her.

She dumped him because she said he wasn't a good enough class for her family and could not introduce him to her family and friends. She she used to say to him she didn't want him or wasn't sure then got really angry if he was out in a group of friends with females. I was friends with him at the time and really felt for him as he was being messed around.

He apologised for her being at the restaurant and I reassured him it is not his fault as he didn't know she was going to be there. I think he felt guilty her being there as he told a mutual friend it was awkward me and her being in the same building. I know it is going to stir up feelings in him if he sees her as it was her who ended it and she was not kind either.

You have nothing to worry about. I'm sure he did have strong feelings for her, but pretty sure he is relieved to be out of the drama.