Instant attraction to colleague how to get rid of the feeling?

[Felicia00]

I'm so embarrassed I have developed a crush on a colleague. He's absolutely gorgeous and seems to have a really nice personality. I've never really fancied someone a lot anyone apart from DH so this is bad. We don't communicate outside of work so no danger of that. I won't ever go there I'm just alarmed how its possible to fancy someone so much and have had no physical contact at all. How do you get rid of the feelings?

It's just a crush. I wouldn't worry about it. Options are 1) Ignore. Try and train yourself to think of other things or 2) Indulge. Let your mind go there, it's just fantasy after all and get it out of your system. Either way you'll probably be back to normal in a few weeks.

It will pass … I was exactly the same about 12 months ago - I had to turn my Teams off as I smiled so much whenever he came on the screen. I had a giddy crush … it was quite nice. However it’s all over with now, we are colleagues like any other colleagues. I just waited on it passing.

You don't get rid of the feelings. You recognise that teenagers cope with this stuff on a regular basis, and so, given that you're an adult, you can do what they do: wait for it to pass, and don't hurt anybody in the process.

You fancy the bloke. It's not the end of the world. You're just human.

Agree with PP - it’s no big deal. Wedding vows wouldn’t be necessary if everyone else magically ceased to be attractive. This is where commitment tells. It’s a sign of your deep commitment to your DH that you have no intention on acting on a passing attraction to someone else. Don’t stress about it.