Separating from partner and moving abroad. Any experiences?

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I want to leave my long term partner. He is horrible to me. We both work full time (both good earners although my salary is sligthly higher). Still, he expects me to do everything related to the children. He does some tasks but lets say he does around 20% while I do the rest 80%. Housework is divided 50/50.
I love my children so much. I don't even mind but I do mind that he critizes what I do and dont appreciate it.For example, today he asked me in the morning if I had bathed my eldest daughter last night because she smelled. Of course I did. Both children get a bath every single day. They dont smell the slightest. They are 1 and 4. They are children and get dirty when they eat and play, of course, but I clean them constantly. It hurt me deeply. Then he went onto complaining how dirty the house was. Mind you, we just came back from holiday. The house is not supertidy and clean but it is not filthy either! Also why is he blaming me for that when I also work full time and I have been looking after DDs!!!
I suspect he has some mental issues. He has 2 showers daily and sometimes 3. He has a bit of an obsessive personality. I would say he is unhappy. He avoids me as much as he can (always busy at work) and he is grumpy. Sex life is over and he never compliments me.
Sadly, I still love him but I hate they way he treats me. I was hoping he would change so we can be happy and sometimes he temporarily does but it never lasts.
(Sorry for the long story, I needed to get it out there)
My question is:
Has someone leave their partner and move abroad?
I would not want to stay here in my own. My company can relocate me to my native country and I will have the support of my family to raise the children.
Initially my partner wont allow me to leave the country but I trust that in a year he will get tired and will agree. I would like my daughters to be close to their father so hopefully they can have lots of videocalls and see him during holidays.
Has anyone done this successfully? Would you like to share your experience? Thanks.

Do you really still love him or are you mixing that up with codependency?. Read about codependency in relationships.

Would you really want your DDs to be close to a lazy ass man who abuses their mother and in turn them?. It sounds like he is not all that bothered about them now; what makes you think he would want to have a relationship with them going forward anyway particularly if you move abroad?.

Such men never change; when someone shows you who they are it pays to listen. All such men care about too are their own selves.

You need to seek legal advice before even thinking about moving the kids abroad?. Is the country you are moving to a part of the Hague convention?.

Not going to lie op
it will be very very tricky as you both work full time so who will be the RP not clear cut

Unless he agrees (in a legally binding way) I don’t think you should even bother. If you press ahead and you both lawyer up, you will both end up significantly poorer and with the same outcome - the kids staying put in the UK (except now both you and your ex have much reduced standards of living - only the lawyers win).

I completely sympathise with your desire to move on and make a fresh start with the support of family and with him out of your life but he has parental rights too and videocalls really don’t cut it. Sorry OP.

A friend left an abusive relationship to go abroad a few years ago , she had legal help and I would really suggestively get some asap , the way she did it was probably not the most upfront but he was extremely abusive and she feared him , she spend almost 2 years traveling back and forth with the children , making sure they spend more time in Spain ( where she is from ) including putting them on pre school there and several activities . When she finally run away from him she actually was able to prove the children residence was in Spain ( just for a few days days but still ) . When they went to court a judge asked him if he realised the children residence was actually Spain and not the U.K. and that he had fully authorised this . By then there was little he could do .
I am in no way suggesting you do it the same way but please talk to a solicitor asap without his knowledge , don’t assume he will give in .
please also remember not all domestic violence is physical , talk to a professional , make sure incidents are reported somehow even if a GP or childvisitor .
good luck