As a family, we moved abroad several years ago. Both my DH and I work in the same profession and as part of our conditional practitioner's certificate, we had to complete four online courses to become permanent within five years.
I completed my courses last year. Trying to juggle all our house/work/child responsibilities whilst studying was horrid. But, I managed it, and so then it became my DH’s turn. He had to do the same courses as me and by me doing it first he was able to see my assignments and ask for advice which I didn’t get the benefit of.
After I finished I asked my DH to start his course, he put it off saying he wanted to wait until the summer. Once summer came, he said he was having a tough time at work, so he delayed his studies. After trying for a few months calmly, I eventually got fed up and we had an argument about him having a year left to complete his courses. He started and his efforts were intermittent, he would avoid studying and despite encouraging him we got into another massive fight. Without his certification, he cannot be employed and we could not financially cope.
Eventually, DH was able to do his first exam which he failed. We had to foot the cost of the entire course again, delaying his ability to start the next course. DH was able to plead with the professional body to get an extention to his deadline – December this year. I was really upset and we argued again – he promised that his studies would be his number one priority. DH has a habit of helping friends and family for the day and then complaining he is too tired to study.
DH has been making some progress but we are in June and he has only six months left and three out of the four courses yet to complete. He and the kids had Monday off and I went to work. He said he was going to study during the daytime but instead took the kids out to the mall. When I got back from work we had another argument. He says he is being treated like a kid but he doesn’t get any of his studying done without being made too.
AIBU? I am fed up, and emotionally done, I’ve spoken about the consequences of him not finishing his studies but nothing I have done so far has worked and the deadline is not going to get any longer.