Not sure if he is married...

[Cherryblossom200]

Hello,

I've been chatting with a guy online for about a week, we're supposed to be talking on the phone soon.

I've been single for a while and have a child so I'm purposely being careful with dating.

There is something I've found quite interesting about this guy and for the first time I thought this might actually be someone I'd like to meet.

I was about to Facebook stalk him very easily via something he mentioned about his work. Some would say it's intrusive but I think it's a good idea to do it especially as they are a total stranger to you. Anyway I found photos of him when he was married. His status says he is married and I found his wife (ex according to him) who has a photo of him and her on her wedding day and again status says married.

He said he has been single for over 2 years. But surely you would change your status to single by now?

I don't know whether I should run now or just ask him outright. Obviously I'm not going anywhere near a married man.

A. Yea he’s still married

b. Don’t bother chatting for weeks and weeks before you meet. All that happens is that you get emotionally invested and they turn out to be disappointing and then you’ve wasted all that time.

So both their statuses say married, and her profile picture is of both of them in their wedding day? I’d probably screenshot that to send to him and then block. He’s still married.

Thanks I'll block him. What a twat...

He even spoke how expensive it is to try and get a lawyer to get 50/50 custody of his kids 😂 honestly the lengths people go to.

Why do people do it?

He’s married.

I dont know anyone who'd have their wedding photo as their profile pic if they weren't married.

Listen to my advice about not wasting time “chatting” to these losers. I’m not saying be indiscriminate. Just don’t waste time on them.

😂 don't worry I'm done: I've very good at blocking quickly and moving on!

I just wonder why married people do it, such a sad thing to do. He has kids, his poor wife.

Well tonight he deleted his profile, or deleted me..perhaps he has been rumbled

the reason he lies is because he benefits from it. Yes he is married. He is clearly after someone who is going to believe him, if you dont then there is someone out there who will. Be glad you looked him up, and look everyone up if you can, we all do it so no need to justify it. He is a silly man and you deserve more than his wifes leftovers.

I'd let wife know first she deserves to know

His wife should know, but honestly I don't want to get involved in their drama. You never know with people do you, I have a child myself and want to protect them. I'm sure he will get found out one day!

Even if I wouldn't of found the profile I would of sussed it out quickly one way or another 😂

Honestly some men are just so stupid.

This is the reason I stay single to avoid men like him. And to some extent I've avoided marriage for this very reason..

I would also send his messages to his wife and let the woman know what she is dealing with, although, I know I would appreciate the heads up but some don’t want to know, either way a bullet dodged

Nope I don't want to get involved, I've deleted his messages and blocked him. The last thing I want is to be dragged into anything.

Just see you updated. I agree with protecting your child.

Married.

Similar experience. Went on 2 dates. He had no indication he was married on his own fb page, but he had said his "xw" was Dutch (example) and he had a Dutch female friend on his list, she hadn't locked down her settings at all and I could see her friends were still commenting things like "say hi to John for me!"
I was wondering if id interpreted it all correctly and I looked again, to check I was right to conclude she was his current wife. He had blocked me. He was probably frustrated he couldn't tell her why he needed her to lock down her settings!!
I just ghosted him. Only person I've ever ghosted.

Oh I’ve been on a very similar situation until I blocked him last night! His name doesn’t begin with ‘N’ does it? 🤣

I dont blame you, I wouldnt get involved either. Its not your job to police married men online and its not like you are a family friend either. Situations like this have the potential to turn unpleasant.

Exactly, he could be a nutter and so could his wife! You never know.