Hard times

[Coolcat09]

So here goes me and my partner have been together for six years but the thing is he ends things and comes back and I suppose I’m stupid for going along with it I get so lonely (sad I know) he last ended it a week ago and come to mine go tell me he wanted to get back together and tonight has messaged me say I won’t be seeing him for a while and he doesn’t want to see our daughter we share more than once a week. I’m just hurting all the time and wish I could walk but for some reason I love him that’s all
really.

Sorry your going through this . Does he say why he keeps ending it ?

You seem to be in a really destructive cycle that you need to break free from.
I don't think it is sad to accept you feel lonely when he leaves you. What is sad is that you keep on accepting him back and then repeat the pattern.
You obviously realise how negative it is for you and your daughter or you wouldn't be posting.
So you need a plan of action
Can you house your daughter and self without him
Can you support yourself
What social life can you create away from him
What immediate support can you get from friends and family
You need to start controlling the situation and not letting him dictate to you. It's not easy but people do it all the time to get out of these cycles
Good Luck

He says he’s got issues from his childhood and the world has made him cold he said he’s cold and said he hurts people because all he knows is hurt. I want to be strong enough to be on my own our little girl we have loves her dad so much it makes me sad to know that maybe she’s hurting because of his actions.

Thanks for the reply it’s actually my home I had before meeting him I’m financially good and I’ve got support my mum booked a holiday abroad we go at the end of June, i suppose healing doesn’t happen over night to think he likes hurting me. I’ve learnt not to message him or contact him during one of his episodes.

Honestly I hope you keep your head up high and let him know you are doing well on your own and looking forward to your holiday . And I hope you do keep getting stronger xx

Go the world I look strong I’m just feel hurt I’m a sensitive soul I’m kind I work hard my little girl I love her I’m trying my hardest to be a good mum but it’s there eating me up he said he said we won’t be seeing him for a while maybe that’s what I need right now to heal. x

You sound a lovely person it's ashame that he is doing this to you over again for whatever reasons he has . I couldn't go through it I'd have to call it a day if my partner went off the radar every so often. It's cruel x

OP look back at how many times he's left you feeling like this. You feel heartbroken. You should make yourself a promise he doesn't get to do it again ever.
Focus on the good things in your life and enjoy your DD.

thank you I really do appreciate your replies I’m going to make this the last time I know deep down it’s going to keep happening this morning is another sad morning, my little girl is asking where daddy is I just don’t know how to explain to a three year old. x

Sounds heartbreaking but you know you and your daughter deserve so much better than this to be dropped and picked up when it suits him . X

Thanks it means so much you’ve replied I’m feeling better today been out with my mum and things don’t seem so bad now it’s his loss xx