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Narcissistic ex and taking me to court over child

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Babygirlmum · 31/05/2023 21:53

What chance does my ex stand taking me to court and what should I expect, let me cut a very long story short he walked away before I had DD and did not want to be a part of her life and was quite mentally abusive during my pregnancy towards me, when she was 5 months old he came back into her life after loads of disagreements and child maintenance being involved, I can not trust him he is very inconsistent and says he can't have her in his own, I used to meet him with her but that no longer works, he is very manipulative towards me and always wants to know what I am up too and things I have to and if I have been with other men, turning nasty if I say something he does not want to hear and then says I seem like I want him back, because I will not let DD stay over at his bare in mind it was a long distance relationship and he lives nearly two hours from me, he now wants to take me to court because me and him can't get along and we disagree all the time, he never asks aboht her progress all well-being he doesn't ask about anything about DD but will ask crazy questions about me witch I will not mention but use you're imagination, he wants to take me to court and I don't know what to expect or how it will plan out, I have nothing but problems with him and he is n out a consistent or caring dad and he always involves his mother and I feel like he is doing it for her mother and not himself because she wants a relationship with DD after telling me to get an abortion at 6 months pregnant as baby dad wanted nothing to do with baby.

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AnneLovesGilbert · 31/05/2023 22:01

I think his mum may be posting on here too. I doubt very much he’ll go to court but she might try and get him to. I wouldn’t worry yet.

Babygirlmum · 31/05/2023 22:13

@AnneLovesGilbert on really what makes you say that please.

Thankyou

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Bluebells1970 · 31/05/2023 22:33

He seems to have an awful lot of power over you still, and you really need to stop engaging with his mind games. Grey rock him every time, don't get dragged into arguments and get a friend/relative to manage access/contact via a separate mobile number/email address. Or use a contact app like google calendar. Every time you react to him, he gets a win. I know it's easier said than done but you need to stop letting him control your life like this.

Talk to Women's aid - they'll support you through this.

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