For various reasons I think my husband and I need to separate, and whilst I am gutted, I am also trying to be practical and get myself out of this situation logistically. I’m mostly writing this for my own thoughts too, so I’m sorry it’s long.
I currently don’t work, but can return to work temping or something at probably around £14ph ish. I have been self employed before at aprox £20ph which would be better but slower to build up. Could do a mix of these?
Husband has aprox £170k in savings but we have only been married 1 year so I suspect not entitled to any of these. I think I could appeal to him and poss get £10k to go towards rent costs. This is not guaranteed though.
Asset wise, I have an expensive watch (£5k) and my car is worth aprox £13k with access to a much smaller one I could use instead. Can sell these?
House wise….. we rent - rent is paid for next 2 years in advance to an estate (we live rurally) it is £1100 pm but is an old farm house and whilst I love the location, it’s not practical for me to stay and I think husband would fight me for the property. I could move closer to Ds school (an hour away) and rent there, or I could potentially move back to where I’m from about 4 hours away. This would disrupt Ds schooling though, and I would be far away from step children who I am close too. I feel a bit ashamed going home too, because my marriage had failed, but it’s cheaper and I have more contacts up there where as here I know no one apart from the kids. I’m thinking wherever I rent I would have to offer a year up front though as I have no salary as yet?
we have no children together, but Ds would like to be close to his step brothers and sisters and ideally would love to keep seeing my husband. I don’t know if that would be feasible though as I think he would likely work abroad if we divorce.
what have I missed? What would you do in my shoes? I’m trying so hard to concentrate on the practicalities so I don’t fall apart. I need a plan, please.