Bullying abusive partner

[KatyKopykat]

Yesterday I had a meeting with the coordinator for the local Freedom Programme which starts in 3 weeks. She was lovely but I felt a lot of what she said was a bit glib. What experience has anyone had with this programme please?

My partner told me to f**k off last week and I blocked him but he's been calling the landline after midnight. Obviously much more to it than this and of course background growing up and previous partner disasters too.

I found the Freedom Program fantastic - I highly recommend it. It will teach you boundaries and why abusers do what they do.

A good example of this is that it will also teach you what to do when your abusive ex rings the landline after midnight.

Just out of curiousity and before you do the program, what do you think you should do to stop your ex ringing your landline after midnight?

@Chowtime I can't block on the landline so I turn off the phone. Hardly anyone rings it anyway. I don't want to get into conversation with him.

Yes thats probably the best thing to do.

If at all possible try to do the course. I don't think you'll regret it and it''s been stopped in a lot of areas due to councils removing funding which is really sad so youre lucky to have it in a way.

Even if she is a bit of a tit, the course itself will still give useful info.

Make sure your locks are changed incase ge shows up at your house btw. And you can also report his harassment to the police. Sometimes these bastards don't fuck off until they've had official warnings.

Report harassment to the police.

Speak to your landline provider and see if you can get your number changed - they usually have arrangements for domestic abuse situations.

Carry on with the programme - it will be helpful.

@Pinkbonbon We didn't live together but I took the keys back from him because he was rummaging through my stuff.

Yikes, what a creep. Did he have warning you were going to take them back? If so he could have made a copy so maybe still change your locks.

He's clearly unhinged if he keeps phoning you. And after midnight suggests he is trying to scare you or wake you up and inconvenience you.

Tf you have your own place.

No I just asked him to give them back. This is some time ago. He flips and then acts like everything is normal a day or so later and if I bring it up he says I've "got the hump" and to let things lie and not persecute and character assassinate him.