I’ve become allergic to marriage

[Pappadopoulis]

I don’t understand what’s going on. I have a wife and 8 year old son. And I am just anxious all the time. The only time I feel ok is when I’m alone. I need no Expectations. It’s like I’ve landed in a role and I’m like - whose life is this? Unable to connect. And - of course - my wife is amazing- and there is no reason for this - which makes it harder. But for my survival- I feel like I need to leave. So so sad.

Have you spoken to your wife about this? Honestly becoming a mum I find suffocating just being needed 24/7 it's hard! I've made a few adjustments in my life recently and they have helped get some balance in my life.

It sounds like you need a break. Parenting is basically like jogging on the spot ALL THE TIME. And I bet your wife would like a break too. Don't let it build into resentment because it's not her fault or your kids. Maybe make some plans for yourself and make sure she gets the same opportunity. Something to look forward to even for a night a week. Remember your a person who is a parent. But you won't find the latter ok if your not happy yourself.