Hardly anyone interested in me since I've been ill

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This is going to come across as very egotistical but I'm just curious to hear about what other people have experienced.

I've been ill for a couple of months now, nothing drastic but not "nothing", either. I don't think it's visible from looking at me, or at least I didn't, but it seems like I'm being approached by men wayyyy less often than I used to be. Almost down to zero 😅

I'm no looker, in fact I have below average facial looks and just n OK figure, but I would usually catch guys looking at me or be approached sometimes, including quite often when I do sports.

It's hardly happened since I got ill, so I must look different, surely? Anyway I'm just wondering what other people's experiences have been?

Your phermones will have changed.

Pheromones*!

Aha, is that it? I mean I look in the mirror and I think I look the same, haven't gained or lost weight as people often do when they're ill. Nevertheless something is decidedly different.

You will likely smell different.

Interesting. I've never heard anyone mention this before. Maybe it's because they are just focused on being ill 🤔

Also being ill affects your confidence so it could be that

I've never had any trouble getting a guy but neither have I ever regularly been approached by men to the extent that I'd notice if it dropped off to zero for a couple of months. And I feel like it would be irritating to be approached more often. Maybe it's because I'm not a sporty type and, forgive the generalisation, but maybe sporty men are a more alpha sort who eye up and approach women purely out of physical attraction rather than via something more personality/relationship-based. Anyway, all this is to say that if I were you, I'd be glad of having a break from it! Enjoy not being objectified while you're doing your sports and I hope you're on the mend and feeling better soon.

Confidence is a massive thing.

If you are walking around upright feeling confident and powerful, people are going to notice.

If you’re feeling like crap and moping a bit then you’re not going to be as attractive as you usually are.

You may not even realise you are doing it.

Yes you'll be projecting a sadness because of what you're currently dealing with that you don't even notice. It's just one of those things.

They can't smell you from a distance tho?
Or are you suggesting someone checking out from a distance can smell the OP 😁?

I don't know...they might do some days 😬

I think the pheromones reason is a load of bollocks. It might be something that attracts men sub-consciously when they're up close, but it wouldn't impact on how often you get looked at or approached.

I never get any male attention, ever , I'm always bemused when I see posts like this. Please tell me I'm not the only one?

In Feb 2020 I was a very chatty flirty character it all changed when I was diagnosed with breast cancer then my personality became subdued.
I'm now still not cured but my confidence has grown and I feel that I can be chatty again.
Looking in the mirror I couldn't see anything different about me. As everything was covered.
I think when you're ill subconsciously your personality changes.

Consider it a blessed relief and get on with your life.

It's not a load of bollocks. I have a friend who uses pheromones to attract men, it comes in bottles like perfume and works

Based on your username, we may be a similar age and I think it was probably about 15 years since I was last hit in by a man. I do have a long term chronic illness but I think I'm just getting to the age when I'm invisible.

@mynameiscalypso You're only 39! I get chatted up and stared at more now at 38 than I did when I was younger. I've found my look and have confidence. Maybe OP your confidence doesn't shine through since you've been ill.