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Trying to understand PS

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Flunkey · 30/05/2023 12:24

Any qualified psychologists out there who want to discuss theories...

Eriksons theory of development states that during the ages between 13-21 young people develop their identity (including sexuality) or they suffer confusion. If they successfully complete this phase of development they can move on to the next stages, which is to achieve love, care and wisdom.

I think PS may have been confused and never successfully completed this stage of his developent. That is why his actions show a absence of love, care and wisdom.

It appears to me that he has hung around this young person to process that stage of his development. He now accepts he is fully gay and can probably now move on to experiencing love, care and wisdom fully.

I am not excusing his behaviour. I am just trying to understand the mechanisms and reasons for it.

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LuckOfTheDrawer · 30/05/2023 12:39

I have no desire to armchair diagnose or 'understand' PS.

I think your OP will get fairly short thrift.

Flunkey · 30/05/2023 12:43

I think it is important to understand the underlying reasons for behaviour so we can better understand and manage those risks.

If you don't want to that's your choice.

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CindersAgain · 30/05/2023 12:44

Took me ages to work out who or what PS was. Some sort of step child, partner or pansexual. Got it now. 🙄

FelicityFeatherstone · 30/05/2023 12:45

Why on would you devote that me and effort to this? To try and understand a complete stranger when you're not in possession of the full facts anyway.

What a bizarre thread

WallaceinAnderland · 30/05/2023 12:45

Is that you Phil?

Flunkey · 30/05/2023 12:49

Any qualified psychologists out there who want to discuss theories...

If you're not interested in this chat, move on without posting anything rude, demeaning etc

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Lampan · 30/05/2023 12:50

Does this mean that anyone confused about their sexuality is incapable of love, care and wisdom?
Sounds like bollocks to me.
What do you mean by successfully complete this stage of development’?

Flunkey · 30/05/2023 12:53

Lampan · 30/05/2023 12:50

Does this mean that anyone confused about their sexuality is incapable of love, care and wisdom?
Sounds like bollocks to me.
What do you mean by successfully complete this stage of development’?

This link explains Eriksons Theory of Development, which will be more informative than me trying to explain in my own words.
https://www.simplypsychology.org/erik-erikson.html

Erik Erikson’s Stages of Psychosocial Development

Erik Erikson's Stages of Psychosocial Development

Erikson maintained that personality develops in a predetermined order through eight stages of psychosocial development, from infancy to adulthood. During each

https://www.simplypsychology.org/erik-erikson.html

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