Shouting

[Daisymoo222]

Anyone else's partner shout at them in an argument then twist it and say don't you shout at me?
He regularly will do this in an argument, raises his voice, face goes red ....but he's not shouting in his eyes.
I'm now getting the silent treatment .

No, my DH has never done this. Sounds like he's gas lighting you OP.

Gaslighting and stonewalling is abuse. Sounds like your boyfriend is trash, what are you getting from this relationship?

You are in an abusive relationship with this man and so this relationship is over. The silent treatment is an example of emotional abuse as is the shouting and gaslighting.

How can you be helped here into leaving your abuser?. Are you UK based; can you make contact with Womens Aid also?.

Just ditch him. Giving you the silent treatment shows that, for him, this is all about him and his ego. It's not about you being happy, or creating a functional relationship. He's either sulking, or punishing you.

Do you want a partner who deals with conflict in this way? How do expect to resolve any disagreements?

Thank u for the replies.
He's been on the phone to friends laughing and joking but when I've tried to talk been getting one word answers. It feels awful like I'm being punished. He's just gone upstairs because I've come downstairs.
He's been accused of shouting at work and got defensive saying I haven't raised my voice but I can believe he's done it .
His communication isn't great when there's conflict.

No, never. He's an awful guy OP and you're better to leave him now then later.