Separation becoming reality.

[floralflow]

My husband and I decided it's time to separate a few weeks back. We haven't told anyone yet, not sure why.

Anyway it was his birthday yesterday and I made an effort as usual for the sake of the kids, presents, trip out, cake etc. however I noticed that none of my family, bar my mum sent him a card or present. It's so unlike everyone. We're such a close nit family and it just dawned on me that it wasn't just me who gave up, everyone did. Not a single person on my dads side even sent as much as a text.

He stopped being with us, stopped going out with us, didn't visit family with me and the kids. Hence the reason for the split but I hadn't realised how obvious it was things were going wrong.

It's really upset me, he thinks I've told everyone and that's why, I haven't, I have no reason to lie. I guess it just became really real that we aren't together anymore and that in reality we haven't been for some time.

Not sure of the point of this, feeling sad and emotional today.

Hi @floralflow sending you hugs ❤
Sorry you're going through this.
Hope this time passes and everything works out for you xx

I’m also sending you hugs. Sounds like you’re in the midst of the worse bit of the break up. It bound to be a big adjustment for you and I imagine there will belittle things like this that cause pain in the initial stages of the break up.

Do you think it might help once people know?

Maybe your family have picked up on more than you realised, without you having to tell them. To be fair to them it’s an awkward position for them. Did he expect cards from them? Surely given he has distanced himself and you are breaking up he knows the side effect is less link to your. Family?

I hope things start to feel better soon. It’s understandable to be finding it tough.