I'm 36 female, only had one relationship - 10 years and had my daughter with him. It ended about 4 years ago and I was on my own the whole time. Went on a few dates but nothing to write home about. There had been alot stress from ex partner. Verbal put downs. Controlling behaviour re new relationship. My partner of 16 months is everything I could want. I've never laughed so much with anyone and he treats me well. Hes positive about our relationship, proactive in organising things for us. Supports me, listens and talks. Things I never really had in my long term relationship.
I feel overwhelmed and every now and then I think he's going to find someone better or is going to cheat on me, lose interest or everything complimentary or romantic he tells me is lies. I seem to catastrophise things and before I know it I've built negative scenarios in my head. All which I convince myself are our could be happening. I don't tell him any of these thoughts, he'd run a mile but it causes me alot of worry and takes the happiness out out things. My mum and best friend keep telling me to stop self sabotaging but I'm really unsure how to get out of this cycle. I'd be devastated if anything happened between us but it's like I'm just waiting for it to go wrong x