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Sister-in-law being strange/unreasonable

10 replies

Savannah5 · 28/05/2023 13:58

My partner and I have been having problems for a long time. But my concern is my sister-in-law. She called me and screamed down the phone at me and hung up. I agreed with the content of what she said and would have liked to thank her but I really disagree with the delivery. Then today there were some messages sent that were rather unpleasant (on her side). It ended with crossed messages where we both asked to have no further contact. I also asked her not to scream at me again. We are both grown ups after all. I got a laughing emoji back and was told yes, she is a grown up. It's great I got that message. Then told me to stop playing games.

I'm not from the world of playing games and I have never done so in my life. Really confused what she could mean. Read through all my previous messages and there's nothing...why is she being so weird and unkind and accusing me of being unkind and a game player. I really don't understand and I'm getting a bit stressed about it.

Even my partner is more reasonable than this. And why does she think it's ok to scream down the phone? What is going on?

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CharlottenBurger · 28/05/2023 14:02

What did she scream, and did it relate to something that happened, like something you did or said? There's not enough in your story to say who is being unreasonable.

AttilaTheMeerkat · 28/05/2023 14:05

Shes likely been influenced by your partner, this person has probably told her all sorts re you.

Personally I would walk away from all of them. Small wonder your relationship with your partner has been on thin ice for a long time. None of these people can be at all relied upon.

Savannah5 · 28/05/2023 14:07

One of the kids, age 15, had put his picture as a profile picture on social media. So screaming that he must take his photo off the internet right now. CLICK.

Btw, partner and some of the kids are visiting her over half term. The child in question is with me. Agree that he should take his photo down, I didn't know it was put up. Would have liked to thank her for alerting me but didn't get a chance to before she hung up.

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FloofCloud · 28/05/2023 14:12

She sounds unhinged!

Zarataralara · 28/05/2023 14:51

Her child has put his photo online? Or your child?
If it’s her child she sorts it with her kid.
If it’s your child it’s none of her business.

tattychicken · 28/05/2023 14:55

I think she means yes she is a grown up i.e. you are not a grown up.

Shivvy120 · 28/05/2023 15:20

This woman shouldn’t have as much contact with you as she does if she’s nasty. You are quite in the right to cut her off if you want.

ZekeZeke · 28/05/2023 15:39

Your posts are confusing.
The 15 year old-is that your DS or your partners DS? Or both of your DS or your SILs DS?

Savannah5 · 28/05/2023 18:17

Sorry for being confusing. It's my DS.

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ZekeZeke · 28/05/2023 18:35

So your 15 year old DS put a photo of himself on social media. Why is that any of her business?
You are thr parent and you are responsible (along with your DP) to manage your DC online activity.

There is no need for you to communicate with her. Block her. Let your partner deal with her.

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