Will try to keep this to the point while also avoiding drip feeding.
Background is an ex partner from nearly 6 years ago now. We were together for about 2 years when I was young and vulnerable and he was very controlling, manipulative and completely destroyed my confidence and trust. I have been single ever since.
Over this time, he has continued to send messages. Initially, I didn't block him as he would say if I did he would have to show up at my house so I figured ignoring his stupid messages was the lesser of two evils. Once time went on and I learnt that no matter how much I ignored him, his threats were empty, I blocked him. He just got new numbers, new social media accounts.
About a month ago, he messaged me off a new social media. It was public and I noticed he had a new girlfriend. I ignore his messages. He would keep blocking me before I had chance, then unblocking me to message. The messages never admit to anything, but they are constant asking to see me and 'reconnect', what I'm doing etc.
I obviously can clearly see he has a new girlfriend and who she is. When he first started messaging me, I wanted to tell her. Not out of spite. But he used to make me feel so awful and accuse me of cheating just for saying hello to an old friend. I went through hell trying to prove myself to him. I look back now, and i wish someone would have told me that it wasn't me, it was all him and I wasn't going insane. However, I couldn't as I just don't want to give him any more ammunition to contact me.
However, this has been a month now. He is sending me emails asking me to go and meet him and he will 'tell me why when I get there'. With each message I feel more like I owe it to this girl to give her what I wish someone had given me.
But I know there's a tendency to shoot the messenger. I know it's likely my whole relationship will get dragged back up again. And I know things may be different with them 2.
So essentially I'm asking what you would do? Prioritise yourself, or this girl I've never met?