Oh lord!! Not again!

[milkydress]

Met a man online, we've had 2 dates...he went away for work for around 5 days. Texted me every single day. I thought things were going incredibly well. I felt very happy. Yesterday morning he text me...I text him back. Haven't heard from him since - he hasn't even read my message. It was a simple "good morning". All texts have men pleasant and nothing heavy going. He has been online just not bothered to open my message.
This has happened to me before so I know it's shit but people do behave like this.
Again, I know this sounds stupid but I really thought he was different.
Should I just leave it or text him to see if he is okay?

Is he still away for work? If it's only been a day he could just be really busy? It seems odd that he'd be the one to initiate contact yesterday then decide to ghost you.

In any case I wouldn't message again. If the silence persists then you have your answer.

He came back from his work trip from japan (so different time zone) on Tuesday. He has been texting since but yesterday morning after texting me he stopped. I understand that it has only been a day but I just thought it was strange. I don't want to look needy but I have experienced this sort of situation several times and I hate being left high and dry - as would anyone. Thank you for replying @yellowsmileyface x

I wouldn't message again. This is why I always used to message and go on first dates with a few men at a time...

Hope he messages back soon

I imagine he's started chatting to someone else, which is frustrating when you've not even had a chance to meet.

I don't want to look needy

Drop this. Say (or don't say) what you want. There's no other way of finding someone who appreciates the real you. 'Making a good impression' or 'coming across' differently from how you are will eventually end anyway, and hurt everybody you pretended to, including yourself.

You are exactly the right amount of needy for you, and this does not need amending. A compatible partner will fit easily into this, and the rest of your personal traits.

I would say don’t bother texting til he texts you, that is very rude it takes 1 minute to send someone a text, less. If he can’t give you that much of your day he’s not worth your timw

Did he text you back?

Yes he did...but he is definitely more distant but still pleasant. I also responded in a similar way. I'm going to ask him if he wants to soeak on phone tomorrow and if I feel he has changed - I'm going to end it

@Watchkeys that is very sensible advice x