What am I going to do ?? Think I've rematched unknowingly and he has no idea ..

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I think I matched with a man I'm talking to presently, six months ago.
To the best of my memory , the conversation just faded out.
I changed my name and photos in my profile as my ex kept badgering me about being in tinder.
I had no facial photos on my
Profile and neither do the man I matched with.

We seem to have matched again a fortnight ago . Chatting sporadically but definitely clicked through chat and are having great laughs on text.

He has now sent me his number to exchange on WhatsApp and is interested in a coffee date this weekend!.
I'm pretty sure we exchanged numbers before but I cannot be sure. I always delete chat and numbers when things d
Fade out.

What the hell am I going to do???
Thank you.

Just carrying on as chatting as normal? What's the issue?

Meet up with him & see if you get on. He might have met someone else when you were chatting before and ghosted you when that went well.

Try & meet up soon so you don’t waste any emotional energy on him.

Well if I am correct, he has my number already and I would have had his until I deleted it .
Awkward questions
I didn't catfish him as I changed my name and photos on my profile, did I?

I think I chatted to my now husband a few years before we connected met and later married at the time we first chatted looking back it wouldn't have worked so give it a shot if your connecting you must have twice for a reason

You are both in different places now. Keep chatting and take a fresh view?

Nothing to worry about, honestly, these things happen and it's just part of online dating. Easy mistake if there's no photos up. However l am always suspicious of a profile with no photos but that's a different issue. If he mentions previous contact just say you must have chatted before so it's nice to reconnect now.

Ok thanks so
Much. I was panicking thinking that I had catfished him or something because of the name change and photos change .

I'd just see where it leads. There is such a thing as 'right person, wring time' and it sounds like things fizzled rather than being a specific reason why you cut contact? When I first met DH (in the days before OLD) we went on a few dates and got on very well, but it just fizzled out due to other things happening in both our lives. We bumped into each other a couple of years later and the spark was still there so we started dating again. That was 17 years ago!
He may well have deleted your number too after you stopped chatting, and either hasn't made any connection or has a bit of déjà vu, but is rolling with it as he's happy.

Should I acknowledge my thoughts with him ?

I think you are over thinking this. Just ask if you know each other all ready and is that an issue?

If you're getting on well and you think there's a good chance this will go somewhere then I'd come clean before giving him your number. Just say what you've told us, and that you had to delete your previous account because you were getting grief from a persistent creep.

If you can't decide this for yourself without the help of a forum, you're not ready to start a relationship.

It's about whether you want to share your thoughts. Other than laws, there are no 'shoulds'. You do whatever represents your feelings in the way you want them represented.

You are overthinking this. There is no problem. If you want to, meet him for coffee. If he asks, 'Did we match before?' just say, 'I wondered that too. Not sure.' Which is true. No big deal.

I would just mention it casually when you're chatting now so it doesn't build up into more of a thing than it is: "hey, crazy thought but didn't we match before? I've changed my photos since then".

If you've got rid of his number, you don't know that he hasn't done the same, so just go with it. If it fades, it fades.

Are you worried he'll be suspicious of why you changed your profile? You could just tell him, "have we met on here before? I was this name with this pic but have since changed". Then if he doesn't want to meet with you he can decide.

i had no facial photos on my Profile and neither do the man I matched with.

I find this crazy, I’d never match with someone who didn’t have photos of themself and would be really suspicious of someone who was happy to chat / meet me without knowing what I looked like