So after a long spell as a single woman. ....
A guy who I always had a spark with at work is now single
We worked closely together and well
I refused to ever get involved as he was married .
(He's a bugger and he tried but he did say he and th wife lived separately but I said well fine - when you're single come back to me and I'll consider it !)
He's now single . Getting a divorce and selling the house . He retired from the job I do 2 years ago. He's got in touch and we gonna date but he's said he isn't ready for a relationship and that's fine cos I'm a perfectly happy happy happy single ! I have a massively full life .
He said he wasn't promising to be a couple and I said fine ! I dont want a relationship! My life is full to the brim of amazing things and friends!
Then he was like oh right we'll if you need a plus one ....
Mmmm. That's a bit more than fwb isn't it ?
He's really sociable , like me , a real people person . Very funny . Very likeable . I've said I'm really fine with a kind and f FWB arrangement. I'm not looking for a relationship.
Now this is a change for me - this is the first time in my life I'm truly happy single . So I need to keep it that way .
We were gonna hook up Monday then he rang me and said let's make it a proper date - he's taking me out .
He's lovely , funny , people oriented, nice looking , fit ,
How do I keep distance . He said he's been trying with me for 8 years and yep - he has - but he was married so I swerved ! I've said let's hook up, have fun , and keep it like that .
He was like "omg I love you already " cos he isn't ready for a relationship and I can tell that he told me he tried online dating but backed off - - he got a bit emotional when we talked about his marriage ending - he's a fantastic musician and when he got emotional about the piano I always felt something for him - he's so sweet .
I'm 4 years ahead of him in the single stakes . I love my life . My single life . But I do miss intimacy. So we're gonna
Hook up and he's the one who
Suggested a date ......
I do NOT want to lose my head . I do not want to get attached . I think I can do this - now I'm at the stage of life I feel this could
Work for me .
But I've never ever had a casual relationship before. Is it easy to maintain ? I like him , fancy him , trust him . ( we worked very closely and he was mr chivalry at times - we were police officers and he melted my heart a couple of times when we were double crewed and he stood up for me - one guy was getting in my face nd aggressive and he stood in front of me and told the bloke if he didn't back off talking to me like shit he was getting locked up !). I didn't need it but it did warm the cockles of my heart a bit I admit! I like him .
How do I maintain distance . I don't want more . He says he doesn't either . I feel the reason he likes me right now is because I'm so unavailable.