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Domestic violence

8 replies

Kc96 · 25/05/2023 21:02

Hi I don’t really have anyone I can talk to and I’m feeling like absolute crap so last year me and my partner broke up I started seeing as you call it someone else it lasted a few months and back in July last year me and my partner got back together not long after I fell pregnant we argued a lot over what I had done (finding someone else ) the arguing turned into massive fights where we would be shouting and screaming at eachorher once it had all calmed down and things got back to normal my partner would say he forgives me for what I done last year it was becoming a regular thing with him causing silly little rows over the situation it then started getting physical he would push me out the bed onto the floor (whilst pregnant) he would tell me to sleep on the floor like a dog because that’s all I am to him he would make me sleep on the sofa he knocked me unconscious whilst pregnant told me he would never forgive me I was a skank to him a sket every bad name you name it I was called it the arguing was more of an every day thing in the end where the abuse would become more often the punches would hurt more fast foward to almost 9 months pregnant the arguing still continued I was worried about going into labour with bruises all over me I had a black eye bruises down my arms my legs we went over to stay at my mums 2 weeks prior to having the baby and luckily the bruises healed before I went into labour after having my baby everything seemed to have settled down there was no fighting no arguing and it was lovley we got on so well today he had asked to burrow money (he owes me so much money because he burrows and burrows and never pays me back ) today I said no because I have other things to pay out for everytime I say no he kicks of and I always ended up being punched or verbally abused and again today it all started with him telling me I should join my nan 6 foot under (my nan passed away last year and her anniversary is Monday ) he’s caused me to have such bad depression which I have told him about and he says I’m going mental in the head I took an overdose last week he told me I should have taken a few more tablets and killed myself he didn’t care about me 1 but whilst I was in hospital he wished I never come back out the things he said are horrendous I really don’t no what to do any more I feel like the abuse is never going to stop everytime I tell him I’m going to leave he tells me he’s going to change but only changes for a week or so I’m honestly at my witts end with it

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junebirthdaygirl · 25/05/2023 21:23

Go to your mum with your baby and stay there. Just tell him you are going for the weekend. Don't hide anything from her. This all needs to come out into the open. When you are safe in your mom's contact the police and womans aid. There is help. You will be amazed at how helpful and kind the police will be. They will believe you.
This man could kill you..he is very dangerous. Don't say you are leaving him.
Womans Aid will help you.
I am so sorry you are putting up with such cruelty but please go. Say nothing ..just go with a few bits. Maybe your mom could collect you if you partner goes to work tomorrow.

Bb234 · 25/05/2023 21:30

Do not put him on the birth certificate and call woman’s aid, try and go into a refuge or stay at your mums safe. How do you know he wouldn’t hurt your baby? You should call the police on him and try and complete the freedom programme. Made me feel sick reading that he knocked you unconscious while pregnant

Mummumgem · 25/05/2023 21:34

Get out fast, it’s not just you now you have a child to think off and trust me he will hurt the baby to hurt you, get out

urrrgh46 · 25/05/2023 21:34

GET OUT and STAY OUT!!! Go to your Mums and NEVER ever, ever go back to this unspeakable person! If you won't do it for yourself - do it for your baby!

Zarataralara · 25/05/2023 21:39

As everyone has said leave now and get somewhere safe. This is the sort of man who kills, it’s the ultimate control. You can report him to the police once you and your baby are safe.

Kc96 · 25/05/2023 21:49

Bb234 · 25/05/2023 21:30

Do not put him on the birth certificate and call woman’s aid, try and go into a refuge or stay at your mums safe. How do you know he wouldn’t hurt your baby? You should call the police on him and try and complete the freedom programme. Made me feel sick reading that he knocked you unconscious while pregnant

He's already on the birth certificate I already have 3 other kids with him ones 8 4 2 and then the baby is 4 weeks old I really don't no what to do my mum doesn't have a clue about any of this going on I told her my 2 year old threw her bottle at my face which caused to black eye I just feel so alone x

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Bb234 · 25/05/2023 22:06

@Kc96 you need to tell your mum please as someone who escaped an abusive relationship, once you shine a light on their actions and they are exposed for what they’ve done to you and the children then you can get the help you need.

daisyjones45 · 25/05/2023 22:12

Take your baby and go before you end up dead

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