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Is he backing away from me or am I overthinking it?

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tiffanyblues · 25/05/2023 17:56

There's this guy I've been sort of flirting with from afar for a while now, as we only see each other in passing, and he's always been very outgoing (visibly checking me out, smiling, winking) and just recently we've become more chatty. This week we had a conversation, during that conversation some personal details came out and now I feel he's different with me.
Before, he'd always be looking at me first when I look at him. He'd always try to catch my eye, and was very smiley. Since the conversation on Monday he's not caught my eye, there'd be chances we could talk for a few minutes but he'd say he needs to go and shut down a chance to have a small chat. I don't know if he maybe feels differently and if I should back off or am I overthinking it?

OP posts:
OwlBeGone · 25/05/2023 17:58

The obvious question is, what were the personal details that came out?,

tiffanyblues · 25/05/2023 18:03

Age, what I did for work stuff along those lines

OP posts:
HowRatherGolly · 25/05/2023 18:23

Is he single?
If he was interested then he would make that clear to you and not leave you guessing or hanging

PimpMyFridge · 25/05/2023 18:27

Certainly sounds like he's cooled.
Which must hurt when you've had that frisson to look forward to.
If those details are enough to throw cold water over him he must be fairly fickle in his fancies.

I hope your heart stops skipping a beat when you see him fairly quickly so you can stop turning it over in your mind. 😒

Shivvy120 · 25/05/2023 18:52

Definitely sounds as though he’s backed off. Reconsider what you said to him, was any of it off putting?
If it wasn’t, then maybe he thought better of an office romance, I presume you guys work together .are you sure he doesn’t have a gf etc?

Dery · 25/05/2023 19:08

Yes - it sounds like all he’s after is some cheerful flirting-in-passing rather than anything more. If he wanted more, you’ve given him his cue by sharing that you’re single. I’ve had similar happen in the past. It’s not you, OP. I’m guessing he’s in a relationship.

concernedalot · 25/05/2023 20:06

Depends on the context of the conversation, what his circumstances are and what yours are and what you've shared with him really but if you're not prepared to divulge even more, from what you've said, yes, he's cooled off

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