First post. Not sure where to go. My partner and I have been together for almost six years, living together for nearly four. Since moving in he has lost all interest in sex. It’s been almost 2 years since we last tried and it’s breaking my heart. There is no intimacy, he barely ever touches me unless he’s tipsy and I’m becoming more and more withdrawn and sad.
I’ve raised this (not regularly because it usually leads to stress and upset) and he tells me loss of libido is entirely normal for his age and there’s nothing he can do or wants to do about it, despite acknowledging that I am struggling. He’s nearly 50 and I’m 52. Tonight I suggested couples counselling and it led to an argument and bitterness from him about my own behaviour and our communication issues. He said in the end we should do it, but I shouldn’t expect it to lead to success when it comes to his sex drive.
I don’t know what to do. I can’t speak to anyone about it because it’s such a private issue. I love him. We have good jobs, we share interests, we laugh together, there is 100% trust, but I’m aware I’m becoming resentful that he doesn’t seem to want to fix it. I guess I’m wondering if this is it, and I should just be happy with the positive stuff, despite feeling so very sad and rejected. Just looking for a check in with someone who might have been through the same, to see how they coped. Thank you