Is it to early for sex

[thebigOz]

In my early 40's and been dating a guy, chatting we are just about to have our 3rd date and think sex may be on cards. But worried it's to early as all 3 of out dates have been over a space of a week

Is waiting to have sex and sex to early puts them off still a thing in your 40's

I had sex with my DH on our 4th date I think.
You're pretty close, just go for it :-D

If you've got doubts , it's too early for sex.

We slept together first night we met (not even a date), and been together 11 years, married for 1 year. If you are getting on and both want to, go for it.

Glad I'm not the only one thinking that!

Imagine going on lots of dates, falling for them and then finding out they were a selfish lover, or under er developed...

Don't do that to yourself

It totally depends on how you feel and if you feel ready/ enthusiastically want it. The '3 date rule' or any other rules are just a ridiculous legacy of Hollywood & co.

Probably in the 2 most fulfilling LTRs I've had, it's actually been the guy wanting to wait a bit with intimacy and sex/ not initiating early on. They later confessed they 'didn't want to seem like they were just after one thing' or 'too keen'. While I would have liked it earlier, it was amazing after building up proper emotional intimacy and trust.

So really, first date or a few months in, it's what feels right in the moment, wh play games and worry what they might think?

If you fancy it do it

There's no rule, have sex whenever it feels right for you. I slept with my DH on the first night I met him, absolutely no regrets! And no regrets if it ended as a one night stand, I did it cause I wanted to.

Lol had sex first date and married and 4 kids on still a happy girl lol

Exactly! You wouldn't buy a pair of expensive gloves without trying them on first 😉

You can only play it by ear
I don't think these things can be planned
You will know when you know so try not to hassle yourself in the meantime
Enjoy the company, have a laugh and take it at your own pace, do more dates because to be fair a week is not long
Happy dating!

You'll be dead soon (metaphorically speaking!as in you're not young ) and with the menopause on the horizon, do you have some moral objection to doing it sooner rather than later?

why MN talks about menopause like a hard-end to a sex life as soon as women hit their 40s?

A lot of women don't get menopause until well into their 50s. Women in my family have a history of pushing 60 and still having to buy pads and tampons because nature has shown us a bloody (pun intended) middle finger

Then there are women who get their menopause early in life and don't lose all of the sex drive 🙄