Don't know what to think about this one...

[caughtinamess]

Please Mumsnetters offer your words of wisdom...

Background: we are both in our 30s, known each other for maybe 20 years but haven't actually seen each other in 10 years due to the distance we live and our work commitments.

We've always been flirty with each other but at the same time serious conversations have taken place too. I'm finding he wants to talk to me more and more recently like every day, we text and we call.
He says he misses me, reminisces about good times we've had together and one day we will meet up again once our workloads have calmed down etc. the phone calls sometimes get heated and we end up being silly together. We send each other pics every now and then or links to a music vid or an article or meme. I feel there is something there but I'm just doubtful because we haven't actually seen each other in person for so many years

It's the enticement of the 'semi-familiar' mixed with 'future faking' and 'what if's', all kinda bunched up together.

If something was really 'there' when you were last together, then you'd have stayed together. But it wasn't right.

It's like having someone else participating in your daydream ?

There's never going to be a 'right' time to get together, because then the risk of spoiling the joint 'daydream' is too real ?

Tell him you're not interested in a 'maybe one day' relationship, so are cutting contact. He'll either need to shit, or get off the pot.

It all sounds like so much fantasist bull to me. Is there nobody you actually know in real life that you want to date? If you haven't seen him for 10 years are you sure he's single?

What's stopping you meeting now OP? Even if there's a long distance between you, if you were meant to be together you would've met by now.