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Long distance 5 years.

5 replies

Shean6310 · 24/05/2023 00:57

Hello,

I will get straight to it, in a short and simple way.

Me and my gf have been dating for 5 years, long distance we met face to face, but didnt travel back as much due to covid, i just saw her in november. We started to plan for the weeding.

All the sudden now she doesnt wanna come with me, and wants me to move there which is not possible. She wants to be together but i cant move there.... she was all fine to do all this couple week ago and all the sudden she is dedicated to one church and wants to grow that church and help that church.

Is this the end? How can i fight against god..

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TheOpenRoad · 24/05/2023 06:02

How far apart are you and how often do you usually see eachother?

You mention wedding plan, do you have a date set?

Are there perhaps other factors keeping your girlfriend in her home town, like family, friends, work? Moving can be scary and perhaps she is feeling unsettled and reluctant to uproot her life

PaigeMatthews · 24/05/2023 06:14

What makes it impossible for you to move but not for her to move?

how old are you both?

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Shean6310 · 25/05/2023 01:38

TheOpenRoad · 24/05/2023 06:02

How far apart are you and how often do you usually see eachother?

You mention wedding plan, do you have a date set?

Are there perhaps other factors keeping your girlfriend in her home town, like family, friends, work? Moving can be scary and perhaps she is feeling unsettled and reluctant to uproot her life

We are 18 hours flight time apart, i usally went to see her every year 2 times but in covid 0 times.

Well we where gonna get married last year but plans got delayed due to covid and some distance, we didnt have a date but my family and all where making plans for december to travel and get married as this was the goal from both of us.

Other plans no, she had fillied my void with pets and now she loves them too kuch i told her this would happen and i supported it.

Family is fine, i speak to her dad, work wise i am sure its not that. It maybe that her mom is religious and she all the sudden found a good home in that church and wants to stay there to support it.

Why i cant move is because i am finicial stable here i run my own business and all, how will i keep her happy there, what will i do for work. How will i make her happy, its not a country to work at ez in.

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Original poster
Shean6310 · 25/05/2023 01:41

What makes its impossible for me is that i have have a good business here i wont probably ever be able to have that there, i have supported her all this 5 years, from rent to everything, yes money cant buy love. But i cant promise her i can even surive there even if i got a job there.

I am 30
She is 24

My main question is fo i let her go or keep fighting, i want to fight hut who can really fight god.

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Poppyblush · 25/05/2023 06:00

its not really a relationship though..,, move on

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