I’ve changed my username but I am a fairly regular poster.
I am sat in my garden, glass of wine in hand, wondering where things went wrong? I’ll no doubt drop feed as feeling a bit tipsy hence why im posting but I just feel so unhappy with my lot.
got with my current partner 14 months ago, single for years and years and really happy on my own. Feel like I was almost railroaded into this relationship. I’d known him a lot of years as a family friend, he was married. His wife cheated and they split. He asked me out and I accepted. Happy for a few months until I realised he was still in touch with someone who I believe was the ‘love of his life’, the ‘one who got away’. She however moved thousands of miles away. I stupidly snooped on his phone when I saw a message pop up from her. He’d told me she was an ex long time friend who’d suddenly stopped messaging him when he told her about me. I hadn’t realised they were still in touch. The messages I read since we had been dating were quite tame, but lots of reminiscing and her telling him how much she loved him. Fast forward and now because of my snooping I see he is close to a colleague. She messaged like she is really keen, he responds quite innocently. He is off at the min and she tells him she misses him etc. he hadn’t responded. He is going thru a horrible divorce, my DS has left home, he has two dependents, I don’t need it. They are no trouble but I’ve done my time. He snaps at me a lot! Most days I have a secret cry, I wish for my old life with my DS.
I’ve brought nothing but love and commitment to the relationship he has brought all the hassles of a divorce, custody battle, it’s wearing me down.