Help please

[kirst1983]

Hi everyone, I’m looking for some advice please.
I moved across to my partners whilst on maternity leave away from friends and family and everything I know but I wanted to have quality time with the three of us whilst we could. There was always a small possibility that I may stay at the end of maternity leave but also a chance that I’d have to return back to working moving away again.
Our wee one is now 6 months old and I’ve been finding it very hard with my partner working day and night most days and not having anyone else around.
Every time I bring up the subject of talking about what we are going to do my partner gets angry and upset and has called me names and also punched a door on one occasion.
I know he had always feared that we may have move away for me to work again but this was always an option.
the problem is now he completely disagrees with me going back to work and won’t listen to any of my reasons. He always just says I’d be taking our daughter away from him and he’d never see her again. He barely has time for us and even told me one night he didn’t have time to give me a cuddle. It’s like a living hell. No intimacy at all since I had our daughter and I’m so sad being away from everything I know.
I know he wants a little family and is hurt at the thought of me having to move away to work but I feel so trapped as he’s refusing to listen to why I feel it’s best.

Is there somewhere you can both move to that's between where you both stay and start afresh? I don't feel that punching walls etc is on at all and it's worrying that this is how he communicates and he needs to work on this I feel. But looking at situation through his eyes, it is his child and it's understandable he wants to be a family. I think youboth need to come to some sort of compromise

He may say he wants his little family, but he’s not acting like it, and you need to listen to his actions. Punching things is not only not acceptable, it’s a risk to your child. Fast forward a few years and life with a child gets stressful, your partner is managing his emotions by punching things (and you?). Is this the life you want for either of you?

Thank you

Yes when he gets angry he says I don’t listen to anything he says and he has no say in anything . I make him frustrated and angry and seemingly am having a go at him 24/7 when I ask him to bathe or put our daughter to bed on his nights off