Desperate ..need advice

[Blonde177]

My husband and I are long distance and had a massive fight on Saturday night ( 3 days ago) he said things, I said things it was ugly, he’s now blocked me on WhatsApp and said he’s done with me and hates me.
I’m devastated, it’s taking everything not to message him on social media,( which he’s unfriended me but not blocked, yet) please help

Sorry, you're going through that.

But, I'm afraid we need more context. What was the fight over? Is there any going back after what'd been said?

He hasn't blocked you on everything which means, he's left you a way to contact him. That may be a positive, in this situation

There’s not enough info
is this is a pattern? Why do you live apart and is that causing issues ?

Agree, more context needed. What was the argument about?

Ok sorry, I’m new here
so the fight started over the lack of effort I feel he puts into contact due to long distance I’m lucky to get a good morning text, a constant argument but this evolved into a screaming match really about money I gave him and him just calling me names and saying he wants a divorce, so I called him a few and said do it then, obviously I was angry and hurt, I assumed he was just angry too but now I’m not so sure, massive over thinking 🤔

We live in different countries which isn’t a problem easily solved either but we don’t fight about that, neither of us are happy about it but we ( I thought) loved each other and would work anything out.

How long have you been married? Any children?

Were you arguing face to face, by text, FACETIME why are you indifferent countries when were you together last? Do you care if you get divorced, what's your question?

Surely marriages aren't ended by blocking spouses on social media. Conversations required etc?

We have been married 2 years no children and the fight was via text
we live in different countries because we are from different countries, of course I care if we get divorced or I’d just ignore him …. and my question was should I reach out on social media or wait ? I don’t want to make it worse

Why did you get married while living apart? Do one of you intend moving? Are you giving him money on a regular basis?

Have you ever lived together?

How can you be married and he blocks you, do you know how insane that is, you aren't married I suspect

This is bizarre. Just bin him off he sounds like a twat. Thank God you don't have children to him

Sadly this is quite common in LDR across countries.

My DP was working overseas during Covid and got stuck, so I joined a variety of groups on FB. Lots of people got married to be able to see each other. Some even got married online (via Utah - and it's legal!!!)

DP is home and I left those groups, but some people were divorcing having not seen their spouse since they got married months prior.

Being married to a UK citizen and getting a spouse visa is the main option for international partners who don't meet the work/study visa requirements too - so lots of people get married before they move, because a fiancé visa doesn't allow work and spouse is easier when it comes to proving it's a genuine relationship.

I saw numerous couples blocking and unblocking each other. People abandoned in airports on arrival. People ghosted.

No, don't message him. He'll be sat waiting for you to come crawling with some apology to him. He sounds like a possibly controlling and completely childish knob. Why the hell you don't want to divorce him after that little outburst and then the blocking of HIS OWN WIFE is beyond me.

He lives abroad . He hardly contacts you. You send him money.
Why ?

I think that if you’re arguing to this extent having not even lived in the same country or had any children or commitments together, then the relationship is dead in the water.
im sorry if that sounds harsh but one day you’ll meet someone and have a proper relationship and marriage and look back and cringe at the situation. It Isn’t real, it’s just a piece of paper that you signed with some man from another country.