Renewed the relationship with the love of my life about one year ago. We were childhood sweethearts then it all went a bit south for reasons out of our control and we separated for 18 years. In that time we both had other relationships and children (me DD 13 - him DD 5).
We have a wonderful relationship, we were careful with the children and even now they have only met once together although he and j have seen each others children more often (ie he comes out with me and DD, I go out with him and his DD when he has her) not all the time as I often work weekends, have other plans etc.
His parents seemed to like me, said they were really happy for us etc but now seem to resent the fact I am in DP’s DD’s life and often make comments about it being too soon and too much/confusing for her etc. I don’t know how to navigate it, his DD always asks for me and we get along great - her mother knows and is ok etc so it isn’t causing any tension.
We are keen to pursue a life together, talking about moving in, in time etc - the mention of this causes Pearl clutching. I go from being a ‘lovely women’ to almost like a young girl who’s after their son for a shag and won’t stay around etc
For the record I’m nearly 40, own my own home, really good job, my DD is happy, healthy, well rounded etc but I feel like I’m so bit on the side that isn’t good enough to be in their grandchild’s life.
What can I do?